Wednesday, September 16, 2009

KolonG step to handle Possessive or Jealous Boyfriend

is it really tired you think when you have very touchy boyfriend? he asks you many questions, want to figure it out what you've done and what will you do. or sometime you being blocked of your time and freedom, any how you have lot pals to be cared for, and you need to go out somewhere without your bf follow you behind. i know maybe he loves you much but it's not the way he treat you and grab your life. in Gay Life we can found lot cases of this, figuring out how to handle your boyfriend’s jealously and possessive personality can be a delicate situation. We must understand in these situations is that the jealously and possessive behavior is usually a sign of the man’s insecurity and personal issues and not you. However, it does add a level of strain to relationships and needs to be discussed. The bottom line is to not let him manipulate you to the extent that it is changing your relationships, friendships and normal routine.

Don’t Let Him Manipulate You
If your boyfriend is possessive or jealous, you can’t let his manipulative actions affect you. By being possessive of you, he wants you all to himself and usually in these cases, the boyfriend limits the boy's ability to hang out with her friends and do things with others. He has to understand that only having a relationship with each other is not healthy. Should suggest he hang out with his friends, too, and that it will be good for your relationship.
Another tip to ease his jealous and possessive behavior is to assure him that he has nothing to worry about regarding your loyalty to the relationships. You must make sure he knows that you won’t waiver. Part of the insecurity comes from the fear that you will leave him for another man. To calm this fear, express your feelings for him on a consistent basis. It will make him more secure and hopefully make things better in your relationship.

You Need Friends, Too
In situations with a jealous or possessive boyfriend, the man's ability to hang out with girl or guy friends can be is limited, or restricted. In your mind, you think your boyfriend is being ridiculous and your instinct is probably to not even justify his thoughts. Though, you will need to communicate to him that you are not interested in other guys and to trust you. He also needs to understand that hanging around each other all the time is not healthy for your relationship. If he hangs out with his friends and doesn’t let you spend time with yours, then you probably shouldn’t put up with it.
Sometimes an overly jealous or possessive boyfriend can lead a boy to his tipping point and cause a break-up. However, it is not fair for you to be manipulated by a possessive boyfriend. It will not improve the health of your relationship and only cause drama. The main point to remember is that your boyfriend must be clear about your loyalty to him and that other people will not affect your relationship. If you can calm some of his insecurities, you may be able to keep your jealous or possessive boyfriend in a more neutral frame of mind.

ps. Adi, too much love will create some jealousy and possessive, so...sometimes love just enough, ok?

2 comments:

  1. i hv lost all mah pals due to my ovrcaring nd posessive bf :(
    nw i want my frnds back but cnt get dem

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    1. my advise, be usual to treat everyone, just relax, remember: "some people comes some people goes, so what? someone else waiting!" ;)
      -KolonG-

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