Now Life has a funny way of testing me and trying to make me strong. When i get older (i'm 29) i will REALLY see my father and the reasons behind his behaviour. i start to understand that his actions are mostly because he does not have the skills to cope/deal with situations better. BUT that is not the point...as a parent he has a responsibility to RESPECT me as a person and ensure that i given the opportunity to learn (with success and failure) in a secure, loving environment. i will get over this, buti need to learn to 'put up a mirror' and reflect all his negative shit and comments back to him. I DON'T OWN THEM! Only me have the power to change my own mind...only take on board positives and dispose of the negatives! Peopel say bad things to others generally because thats what they are really thinking about themselves.