KolonG "tired to love, am I wrong?"

Dear Slimo,

I could go through a bucket load of depression being with someone, question everything about the relationship and still be hard pushed to leave, and if I left chances are I would end up coming back anyway.
I'm wasting too much emotional energy on all of this past, am I wrong if I'm tired to love someone now?
[Fernando]

Dear Fernando,
It's not wrong if you have to take a pause to not love someone for a while, It happen to me this recently, I've had very good love but end up with mistreatment,
It's not worth being upset over the past, don't let the failed relationships ruin you. There is grieving time, of course, but after that point - how does it help you get to where you want to be in life to continually mull it over and try to figure out where it went wrong? The relationship has ended. You are better off not getting back with any of your ex, unless they have changed - if they haven't, the relationship would go the exact same way, eventually. I find it helpful to consider my emotions as logically as possible - how does this emotion help me? Does it put me on the path to where I want to be in life? Sometimes it's just impossible, but when you find yourself upset over something weeks and months later, it's easier.

Remember, I don't at all mean to sound disparaging on this, I get what you're saying entirely, and I feel like I can relate because it sounds like me when I was around your age. What happened with me, and what happened with most people I know, my advise; be stronger as a person, show to the world that you'll away look fine, and be potentially more desirable, if that's what you're going for.
Look ahead, not backward. You'll harden, you'll develop new "wants" and probably have a better perspective on how to achieve them, you'll be better for the experience even if the end result is not what's ideal for you at this very moment.

Best of luck, Fernando!! ;)

KolonG How to Be Strong After a Breakup

thanks for VC, Dusk And Sondra C for this advise, and here I wanna share their mind through my blog ;)

Dear Slimo,
When everything is wrong and you just want to cry all night, that's when you know you need to get over your ex. Everyone experiences heartbreaks, but being strong about it is another thing. Don't let your ex see you weak.

1. Never ever run back to Him or call Him all the time.
You can just never let go of that special guy that taught you how to love. When you guys break up, then it happens for a reason. Don't keep calling him and talking to them like nothing happened or try to make them love you again. It's not going to work out. It'll just make you seem weak and clingy.

2. Forgive and forget.
Let things go and remind cool. Don't let your ex see you miserable without him, it'll just give him the satisfaction and an ego boost.

3. It's okay to cry at night.
For the first few weeks, it's going to be a long and lonely journey. So it's OK to cry. Cry your heart out for the matter of fact. You are going to stop crying in the end because you'll get sick of it and realize that it's a temporary phase. Listen to sad love songs. It'll make you feel better and you'll realize that you can relate to him even more after a breakup. Get it all out and then deal with it.

4. Remain Positive.
Just because he broke up with you or doesn't want you back doesn't mean that you're "worthless". There are plenty of other people who want you and would be willing to treat you even better than your ex. keep smile and laugh. surround yourslf with friends and people who care. Not only will you feel better, your ex will notice how happy you are and maybe regret rejecting you.

5. Lift your head up high and move on. Don't let one relationship drag you down even though it was the best one you ever had. There will be plenty more and it's his loss. You are too good for them anyway. Tell yourself that. Tell yourself that you need someone who will treat you right. Just be strong and forget about your boyfriend.

6. Don't try to fling or have special relationships with your ex. It never ends up right when you just go back into that cycle. Yes, "that" cycle. Where you guys break up then make up then act all cute and happy but in the end, you'll just be heartbroken and cry. Yes ... that cycle. Relationships end for many reasons, so just forget about trying to "work things out", it'll never ever work out.
7. Consult a friend if you feel lame or played. When your ex plays around with your heart when he knows that you still want him, that's when you definitely know that he is not for you. It's OK to feel this way, completely normal. Don't hold your feelings in, just share to friend. Let them comfort you and let yourself vent your feelings. You'll definitely feel better.

8. Shop, Exercise and socialize. It'll make you feel better to buy new outfits so you can look more attractive, more great looking, and show to the world your inner. Not only will it boost your confidence, it will also boost your self-esteem. Looking good will make you feel good. Exercise is also a good way to vent your frustration and pain. Socializing with others would keep you distracted from your ex, bolster your self-esteem, and help you get over your ex. Go clubbing and have party much if you feel it be your good way. When you are occupied with other people, you'll think, "Hey! Being single isn't bad. I get to make new friends and have more time to myself". feel Flirt and mingle!!! ;))

KolonG SINGLE AND HAPPY ;))

Living alone doesn't have to mean being lonely; not if you like the person you live with. Some people actually choose to live alone; they prefer it to any other situation. Then there are those who live alone by necessity; they have no other choice.

“Unfortunately, society puts so much pressure on singles, to be in relationships that people forget that they have to be happy with themselves in order to be happy with someone else. That applies to friendships as well as intimate relationships.”

It is understandable that you may feel lonely and disconnected when you are on your own, but you must really master the art of being alone and happy before you will be able to be in a happy relationship. The best way you can jump start this realization would be to find a life purpose/passion. Many singles are waiting for a relationship to infuse their life with passion and purpose, not realizing that having a loving partner is not a substitute for a meaningful life. You must find a purpose for waking up in the morning, have a vision of your place in the world and what contribution you want to leave. Be powered by your passion, by taking action.
Being single is a choice. well, happiness is a state of mind. If you're not happy with yourself, in relationship or single, won't make a difference. There are however several things about being single and happy at the same time, that are advantageous. Being single and happy means that you can have a fella over to dinner, have fun to close with anyone else at the end of the evening, free to love all your pals.

best pal said "I am happy being single again. The one thing that I hated dealing with when it was over between my boyfriend and I was the loneliness. I didn't like the drama and I love going out to clubs and parties. I have lot friends to go out with and party with. I love going to places that I never been before. "

Being Single and happy depend on your life, You must be as enthusiastic in discovering yourself as you were in discovering other people. The more you like YOU, the happier you will be living even alone. The cliche "If it not broke don't fix it," Make yourself into someone interesting, someone you'll enjoy living with. If you're unhappy living alone, you've no one to blame but yourself. ;))

KolonG "Learn from the lost love"

I was thinking how to bring myself to a commitment, I just broke up with my boy but I thank for him for make me more strong in life,

1. I Learned from the past to advised that we can Rewarding Relationship What we are in Current live,

Life is full of ups and downs. The only reason, why when we are experiencing our feelings tide of life so extraordinary is because of the low tide situation that we experienced such a devastating our hearts.
Maybe we will not recognize what it feels like to have the overwhelming feeling we never had a bad one. The same principle applies in a relationship. They are never wrong in finding Mr. / Miss Right will be a better person. The next moment, when we try to go through difficult relationships we experience because the relationship is not going well, remember what an incredible feeling later on when we finally found someone who really fit with us.

2. I Know How Diverse Facing Problems Of A Relationship,

Maybe we see failure as a disgrace to dark relationship in career relationship, think again. Every relationship will give us more experience to deal with various problems that we can not avoid. But we are more familiar with a variety situations, the more we feel equipped to face any problems in the future relationship.

3. A Mistake To Evade Moving Forward,

Although the emotions we feel dry and crumble, but the end of love will give us many valuable insight into what should be avoided as we fall in love again. We can stop the bad habit, is able to overcome some problems in communication and check out other things that might go wrong and make our relationship never ragged. The more we realize the mistakes of past and may never make us get to the lowest level ones, the less for us to repeat it.

Now I'm not carried away by desire about what we do not get, hopefully the higher one's level of maturity for me to appreciate my next partners, the spirit well, thanks for my ex-BF ;))