Best friend of mine ask me that question, i know its abig problem when knowing we're gay and our parents are forcing me to marry a girl, we're gay but we're the only child of our parents dream, see us marry; therefore, his parent alway ask him to marry soon and pampered it a lot. However, even after several attempts he can’t tell her his sexual orientation. What should he do?This is Indonesia, we're living in the east culture and people here find it hard to digest when their children come running to them saying -‘Dad, mom, I am gay’.
Keeping that aside, my advice to him is not telling his parents first, cause the truth would not be fair, as well.
Regard from my friend case, I understand that revealing your sexual orientation to your parents would be a very difficult issue for you. if it happen to you, Nevertheless, you have to take this step, no matter how difficult it be.Believe me, your mother would have been a very great friend to you but talking to her won’t be a cake walk.
You have two options. Either, you can sit with your parents and discuss that you have no inclination towards women or you have to mutter the courage and tell that girl that you are gay. If you prefer not to make a public announcement of your sexual orientation, go for the first option. Go for the latter, if you have no issues letting people know you are gay. When you tell your mother, she will begin with the regular ‘How-did-this-happen’ expressions, move on to ‘why-me?’ expressions and end up with drenching herself in tears. However, all this should not make you change your mind and give it to her wishes.
No matter what happens, don’t marry on your parent’s compulsion. You would not only topple your life upside down, you would also ruin the life of that innocent girl.
it all mater of time, hover like or not one day you have to tell them that you're gay, so Just do it before it step further prepare your mariage event. Screw up some courage. Give your parents a very strong statement that you're a gay, that you would prefer to be gay and not be married all through your life than ruining the life of that girl. They should not be left with any other option, apart from either killing the idea of marriage for once and for all, or let you live the way you want to.
those the option, hover turn back to you, wanna get marry and whole life you're in hell or take that marry card off and you're free to live with your gay life, all in your hand now ;)
ps. for Harry...you know what the best for your life, dear... choose the best one
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