Dear SLiMO,I saw A lovely straight couple passing me by, and from them I see love, passion, commitment, sacrifice, understanding, companionship, responsibility, acceptance, children, family and future.
The guy is average looking, the girl is pretty, but I can see the world in them. do you thing they're happy?
A sweet gay couple passing me by, they both are gorgeous, but yet all I can see only love and lust, and fragile.
Why are we so shallow? Is it because the circumstance? Or it's our nature? We fuck like an animal, and we choose our mate like an animal do, by physical appearance.
For us, the first impression always come from physical appearance right? And when our physical attraction become love, can we deny that the basic of our attraction is physical? We may have the love, we may have the lust, we may have some degree of commitment, but where it leads to?
Straight relationship grows endlessly, and our gay relationship doesn't , thats our problem.
We date a guy, we fall in love with each other, we are in a relationship, then what? What's next? We just stuck in that, and wait until it ends? I'm tired, Slimo... need your hug ;(
- Dark n Black -
Dear Dark n Black,
What you see ia only what you can look, you never know what happen inside them right? or it may something among their heart.
Sometime A straight couple start from a date, that leads to relationship, and then they will plan to marriage, advancing to build a family, with children, share the responsibility, sacrifice their dream, accept the partner's flaw for the sake of the family they build, for the sake of the children they have, for the sake of the love they share. There is not much selfishness left in them.
We, gays, start from a date, that leads to relationship, but mostly the process end short here. May we take love too much for granted? There is nothing to lose when we have to start over again? Or may we are all too selfish?
Sumtime gay's commitment in relationship like "Hey, I promise you I won't fuck others and cheat on you." Is it because sex it too easy for us?
When we asked a straight couple what is commitment, they will answer that commitment is an effort you have to make, with all your strength, to make the relationship works, and thats include acceptance, understanding and sacrifice.
So, basically, gays' commitment is promise, while straights' commitment is effort. Now we can learn bit bout commitment hover there's no mistake between our commitment and them.
We Do realize that when people describe a family members, they will think of husband, wife and children? It's so natural for a husband to tell his wife "We are a family". But in our life It's like "I love you, but you will never be part of my family". But why you have to ask too much for this rule? so stop compair our life with them as long as there's love between you and your partner, it's the most important thing in any all way of relationship, gay or straight.
Coz compare to straights, our relationships are strong in love, lust, passion and companionship that is great for short term, but weak in commitment, sacrifice, understanding, responsibility and acceptance thats needed in long term relationship. But there's no something wrong for those, maybe that's the reality of our life and why we have to ask more, further you may marry your partner but why should you ask to his family declaration? becoz it will be one in million family could understand, maybe here we are called "gay".
My advice; "being gay loyal with one man is so much better than be a straight sex with every woman"
-SLiMO-
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