Wednesday, April 9, 2014

KolonG "Single and very happy" [new part]

I would like to state that I am not “anti-relationship.” Becoming a successful single is about learning to be happy with yourself; it’s not about an outright rejection of couplehood. Learning how to be a successful single will give you the right perspectives, put you in a better state of mind, give you more self-confidence, and reinforce a positive image of yourself. The way you feel about yourself is apparent to others. Whether your goal is to eventually find a relationship, or if you just want to become more accepting of being single.

Becoming a successful single requires you to have confidence in yourself. The first thing that you have to do in order to become a successful single is to have a positive attitude. A positive attitude is your first line of defense.
Your attitude determines your level of happiness. Lets find the way and keep being happy;

1. Take charge of your reality and give up all that envy! Stop worrying about everyone else around you getting into relationships, and thinking that you need to as well. All those happy couples in movies and TV shows are the fabrications of Hollywood writers designed to sell tickets and get high TV ratings. Real couples have messy lives—they fight, leave the bathroom dirty and steal the remote from each other. Give up those unrealistic fantasies of your 'soulmate', and notice how most people around you are just regular folk - good people, but not magical heroes who fix each others' lives.

2. Focus on becoming the best person you can be. Take classes, work out, do volunteer work, go to therapy, do whatever your heart desires. Remember that everything you do should be for you! High self confidence will attract more friends and maybe in the long run even a little romance. (Once you become the person you like, though, you may be less willing to compromise what's important for romance.)

3. Indulge yourself. Go out and get your sauna, have a spa day or get a massage. Just because you don't have someone to impress or please doesn't mean you should stop pleasing yourself. You are a strong, independent person who deserves the best. So give it to yourself!

4. Play the field. Go out and have fun. Go out to clubs with your friends. Dance and flirt with others if you like. Don't be afraid to give or take phone numbers, just realize that nothing may come of it.

5. Realize that you are still lucky and fortunate. Many people around the world are either: chronically ill, homeless, living in poverty, starving, fleeing from warfare, and have no personal freedoms due to dictatorships. If you are depressed and think you are not lucky because you are single, think again!. People in those aforementioned conditions have it harder than you!

6. Take up a new hobby! Learn guitar, go for watersport activities, write a novel, cook some gourmet meals! Whatever you've ever wanted to do, do it now. Trying something new can lead to new skills, friendships, and self esteem.

7. Look in the mirror. Say things that you like about yourself. Repeat phrases to yourself such as "I am a strong, and handsome individual" and tell your reflection that you love you. You need to know that you cannot expect others to make you happy. You are the only person who can make you happy in the end.

8. Become an optimist man. This is a trait that helps you whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed! Keep a gratitude diary and every night think of 3 things you are grateful for. Find the silver lining in everything throughout your day, and savor little pleasures. You'll live longer, make it through tough times more smoothly, and even avoid the common cold more often! You are likely enduring a difficult time as a result of being single. This doesn’t mean your life is over or that you don’t deserve to be happy. Do things you enjoy with others. Take steps to promote your own physical and emotional healing by staying active in your daily life patterns or by adjusting them. This healthy outlook will help you. Make commitments and keep them.

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