KolonG why god boy love a "bad boy"? ohh...

thinking bout your imagination, when you meet a very cute boy but he's a player, for him love is not everything, he just need play game and having fun with your desire. hemmm... gay life always full with those kind of boys. extremly he know we have a boyfriend but he'd like to be the second one in our life. so you falling in love than, but why bad boy? superslimo come to share, hahahha..

Many men love to walk on the wild side, even if it means risking a broken heart by dating a bad boy. It's dangerous, exciting, but interesting. While some men date these rebels for a change of pace, most of them are intrigued by the tough exterior it's a challenge. So what can a nice guy do to measure up and create some excitement in his relationship?

1.Bab boy has opposites Attract, Just like a bad boy is the one thing a good boy can do, but still be presumed innocent. Nobody would suspect he picked him, but they'll probably assume he fooled him and is taking advantage of his good nature.The truth is, typically the good boy picks the bad boy because of how he makes him feel; fascinating, needed, pursued, and good. He is a rush and a high that he doesn't get from him daily good deeds. If he tames him, it will be the ultimate good deed.

2.Bad boys Main Character is like hero, If you take a close look at the main male character in almost any movie, he has a lot of typical bad boy characteristics. To be a hero, chase the bad guy, and save the girl, you have to have what it takes; manly characteristics and bad boys have them. hemmm...macho!!

3.Give and Take, Good boys are givers and bad boys are takers- another example of opposties attract. Good boys have a natural instinct to give and nurture and not think twice about expecting anything back. In fact, it makes them happy to give to a guy who is good at taking- they feel needed. The bad boy may also require a little extra nurturing due to a rough past and inability to love deeply or unselfishly.

4.Bad Boys are Good...Looking, wild in bed, Bad boys tend to be better looking- they put more effort into their appearance because they need to compensate for the lack of inner beauty and they need to attract (bait) men. Even if a bad boy isn't totally gorgeous, his status will captivate any man. A bad boy image has been glamourized for ages. Bad boys are good at attracting an audience- they have all the right superficial characteristics (boyish, assertive, mysterious) that seem exciting to express in bed, and his lot wild experiences may make you jump to the 3rd game of love in bed ;)

Signs of a Bad Boy;

1. Appearance, appearance, appearance! Tattos, peircings, smirk, extra sharp or extra tattered clothing. 2. Attitude- vague answers, aloof demeanor, and confident/cocky.. 3.Addictions- alcohol, smoking, women, speed/fast cars, etc 4. Stands out in a crowd- domineering, extreme, attracts a crowd too.

but remeber...not all bad boys are bad, if you can catch what he want and you have all inside, he may to e the most good boy ever, try your wild adventure...

KolonG how to keep long distance relationship

it was long time ago when i met some great man in life but we never meet before, it felt so good when he comfort me with his love. after 4 years finally we met, spend only one whole day but it was meanfull for us, i even still remember how he laugh, how his voice put me in my best imagination of love and cherish, how he kissed me, touched me, and i was full in love that time. i call him "mylittlestar" as he call me "mysunshine", it was great time in my life.

it could happen in gay world when we surf and met sumone and make some commitment before we meet, and knowing that situation you may read this one,

Throughout my experience working with long distance relationship, i had discovered that there are lots of thing that we both us must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship.

1) Communication, The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is an effective communication channel. thats why i have to call and sms him very often ;) Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, etc can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore daily experience to your partner.

2) Plan to meet each other, There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other in period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart.

3) Build hobby that you can both share, By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner, Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.

5) Share that interesting moment, capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

6) Doing sex cam to cam, i dont have to say bout this, you know how...hahhaha

well..that my stories with him (Randy) and hope you guys know how to treat your partner so far away. even we survive for less than one year, but i did thanks for the beautiful momment i had with him, hope he found someone love him much more than i did, and our story will last ever. so...i'm gonna say long distance relationship is not that bad, you may find any unique and great stories among, enjoy your relationship. Remember that time and place cant separate both of you guys, as long as you both learn how to give "trust" to your partner each ;)

KolonG Have you ever wondered if you loved someone?

friend of mine just finished with his first serious relationship, and throughtout it he often asked me if he really did love his ex boyfriend. Because he had so little experience with other men, he wondered if this is what love really felt like, or if there was someone else out there who could make him happier. he's a mass of conflicting emotions. Sometimes he glad its over, and other times he realize just how much he miss having himr in his life.

Have you ever felt like that? Also, now that its over, Is that normal?

MY ANSWER;

Obviously HE speaking about a "romantic" relationship. I understand his conflicting emotions, believe me I do. After many years of serching of partner, my ex bf said to me: I am not really sure that I was ever "in love" with you, but more drawn to your amazing zeal for God and life." In truth, I think love encompasses so many things, but at the core... love evolves out of friendship, attraction, respect, and adoration. I also think that it becomes very easy (not saying he had done this) to assume he have "fallen out of love" with someone, when the storms of life pervade. This is why I fully believe the current trend, which is to plunge into a sexual relationship before those elements that I listed in the beginning (friendship, attraction, respect and adoration) are not developed at the core of the relationship, the relationship will probably fail. Once the routine of life sets in, often times people become less interested, misread the signs, and interpret life pressure as irritation at the other person, and of course then the sex is affected, the ability to endure hardships together is compromised, and then it is no wonder "why" the couple suddenly feels like they are no longer in love. In truth... they may have not been in love... because I really believe if two people have that core connection, which ONLY comes about from time well spent together (and that frankly is separate of the bedroom), then their bond becomes extremely hard to break. There is also the issue of intimacy. While that word seems to be thrown around a lot, I believe there is a difference from love and intimacy. Many couples experience a type of love, but to know intimacy... that is another story, and few really do. Once again, that is not about sex, but rather the core connection between two hearts that genuinely care.

Certainly it is normal to miss someone have had a relationship with... But there is no one that can really tell you whether you were truly in love with him or not. Unfortunately, only you will be able to answer that question. Indeed, love is a curious thing... and none of us can really live without it.

KolonG Love at first sight

Do you believe in love at first sight? Scientists study our brain activity and say that it’s quiet possible but everyone is free to believe or not to believe. i dont know but i try to find it, had been long time and it happend to me, yeah...superslimo was crazy that time, hahahha..

in gay life i do believe lot guys are so easy to fall in "like" and "love" but when it come the time to have sex, pfff... you may say "he's not strong enough to be my man, he's not a good kisser, etc".

some people claim that it happened like you raise your head, meet those eyes and tell yourself “It is Him!”. Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in him, they can make a lasting impression on as. Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love.

it was happen infront of Ambarukmo Plaza Jogja, this may 15th, named Timo, i met him in chat, when it come time we arranged to meet, i'm in love to him, at first look, yeah...badly time jumped us at Liquid club and kiss crush upon us, i'm in love that time, i saw him like theres an angelo in my face, i can't breath, i can't think, i can't remember where were us that time. and felt let us flow... whatta short story till sky show me the reality, we can't belong each, but our stories already keep as my great short love ever ;)

Of causes beautiful people attract attention the most, but sometimes it’s wrong to fall in love with them easily because those people are experiencing much attention from the people of the other sex all the time and your delightful reaction may simply have no answers. you dont know him, does he has bf, or does he.s a bad boy or..., we never know..

But if you suddenly fall in love with quiet unknown person and see that it’s mutual that may mean even that mother-nature has chosen a partner that genetically suits you a lot. In this case it is like “aha, match! oh...finally.... or he's the one i've been looking for", oh...man..you're in love...so my advice tell it, out loadly...if you keep it even just for minutes, love will pass you away, oh...no...

-SLIMO-

KolonG The Best Places To Find Gay Men

well..what i have to say in here, gay life is just like water fall to all your river near by your house now, in jogja (my town) lot spot we can find and do the best thing to enjoy, plenty restaurant already dedicate for it life, so thing we can do...you know how? hahahha...

Is there one good way to find gay men that are interested in romance? Unfortunately, there is no holding tank for gay men waiting to be paired up nor is there a magic bullet to finding your personal homo hero. But never fret- there are many good places to find gay men willing to date. Here are the top five:

1. Online Chat Rooms/Dating Sites
Are chat rooms and dating sites about sex or about love? Well, it's actually a little bit of both. Most chat rooms and dating sites leave it up to the seeker to let the general room population know if they are looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now. Clearly state what type of man you are looking for and under what circumstances you are willing to meet.
2. Dance Club/ Lounge
There are arguably as many gay men that dislike gay clubs as there are that live for a weekend of dancing. Either way, for the party enthusiast, the club or lounge can be a great place to meet men. Couch potatoes shouldn't feel left out though, smaller and less intimidating lounges can also be a great venue for gay men of all types. And of course, if you can get past the blatant displays of testosterone "heterosexual" clubs are also a good source. Many homosexuals go to straight clubs with their heterosexual friends and are often easy to spot.
3. Everyday Life
Despite what the authors of children's fairy tales wants us to believe, there is no such thing as a knight in shining armor or a prince on a white horse showing up at your door to save the day. Of course, it is possible for you to secure a date with the UPS delivery man, but the likelihood of that happening is quite slim. However, the tales that aren't a lie are the ones about meeting the man of your dreams at the grocery store or the record store or the coffee shop or the car wash or the park. The list is endless. Gay men do the same activities and need to run the same errands as everyone else and the odds of running into one that catches your eye is better than sitting at home alone. This method is especially effective for gay men living in small town. More than likely you will run into another gay man at some point around town. Of course, once you make contact the next step is up to you.
4. Referrals
Referrals from friends, co-workers or family are hands down the best way to meet a guy. I'm not talking about the spin of the roulette wheel called a blind date, but an actual informal introduction arranged by a friend. Usually these begin with the standard, "I know this cute guy..." or "I think one of my co-workers is gay..." and end with "I can arrange for you guys to meet..."
Even if you are shy or don't quite mesh with the "referral," take solace in the fact that they have other gay friends. If you meet and it works out- great! If not, befriend them and network. Expanding your circle of gay friends can only lead to possibilities for romance.
Friends not beating down your door with referrals? Then ask them if they know of anyone. You'll be amazed at how many times you'll hear, "Now that you mention it, I do know a..."
5. Finding a Man
Despite these very effective places to meet gay men, it is important that you get out and meet people. That will always remain the best method to finding a man. If you are shy, take your time and ease your way onto the scene. In time, there is always someone for everyone. Happy man hunting!

KolonG Think this Before You Get Back Together With Your Ex Boyfriend

some of pal ask me is that ok if i back to my ex-bf? any how he already cheated me over and over, so what i suppose to do? he ask me to back again?

wow...superslimo wanna warn you....!!!A cheating boyfriend can cause tension in any relationship. Everyone hopes their partnership is built on trust, but what happens when that bond is broken and you already cheated by him?

So you and your ex have started communicating again. The new conversations remind you of the good times. Your first thoughts are "Maybe he has changed" and "This is why you fell in love with him in the first place." You take your time trusting him again and things are now going well. The meeting and falling head over heals has returned. You then wonder what it would be like if you two were back together, forgetting all about the bad times. Yes, you guys joke about who lied to who and who broke who's favorite candle holder, but have you really resolved all of the issues you need to resolve?

Getting back with your ex boyfriend can be a great thing. But along with the success stories are failures due to lack of communication. Save your rejuvenated relationship by considering these things before getting back with your ex.

1. Don't Let Your Emotions Take Control
A few minutes of mental discipline can mean years of emotional play. Like we discussed earlier, it's difficult to step back and think rationally when you open the positive lines of communication with your ex. A flood of emotion can overcome you, clouding your judgment. Resist the good feelings and focus on if starting a new relationship with your ex will be a positive contribution to your present life. If not, you may want to reconsider.
2. Heal Old Wounds
Don't forget- something about him upset you in the first place! You or he may have regrets, but that's not enough to resolve any previous pet peeves or conflicts. Sure, your previous relationship wasn't a trip to the grocery store, but it helps to take some time alone to write a list of your ex's positive and negative qualities. Be as detailed as possible and list situations if necessary. Try and draw out what contributions you feel each of you made to the failed relationship. Be sure to discuss these things with him and ask yourself: Have these issues really been resolved? Has he or I truly changed or can either of you live with the things you couldn't live with before?
3. Drop Previous Expectations
A new relationship with your ex is just that- a new relationship. So, drop the previous dreams and expectations and start anew. You don't have to start from the beginning of man, but try and build a new life together and treat common goals and expectations as if they are new. There is still trust and a renewed friendship to be built.

Ultimately, the decision to get back with your ex has to lie with you; but it's important to make sure you don't fall into the same patterns, fights or routines that led you to the first breakup. Ask yourself honest questions followed by truthful answers, then openly discuss the feasibility of a new relationship with your ex. so think much before you take the first step again, and superslimo warn you!!! ;)

KolonG How to Go Out Alone to a Bar, Club or Restaurant?

well...its kinda shilly story but it was really happen few years ago when i was very first time travelling alone in abroad and figur it out that gay life there totally deferent with the one in my home country, i was afraid to start fooling around at gay zone and seemed like little goat in the middle of lion's village. but finally i found my way and known how to do my best way, i said...never say now before you try... enjoy this tips ;) Here's How:

1. First and foremost, forget about the stereotypes you may have about going somewhere alone. You are not a loser, a loner or desperate. You are merely by yourself. Being alone can feel awkward, but there are several positives.
2. Prepare to go out like you would any other time.
3. Ignore the fact that you are going out alone.
4. Once you are at the desired location, enter with confidence as if you have a full entourage behind you. If a guy is interested in you, then you being alone can sometimes make him feel less intimidated.
5. Sit at the table or have a drink.
6. Keep your head up high, relax and be calm. This gives the impression that you are alone by choice not by circumstance.
7. Just enjoy the atmosphere or hang out.
8. Don’t distract yourself by reading magazines, fidgeting, or playing video games in a crowded place. This makes it seem like you are not open to conversation to others.
9. Don’t talk to yourself, but behave like you normally would.
10. Try not to feel awkward or intimidated. Most people will be intrigued by the confidence you have to be alone.
11. More times than not someone will see you and start a conversation with you. Also, don’t be afraid to say hello to a stranger; especially one that is alone himself.
12. Stay confident and keep your head up high. Being alone at places is a great way to meet to new friends and guys. Many are intimidated by groups. Some people would rather approach a guy that’s alone than one that’s with a group of friends!
13. Finally, don’t worry if you don’t meet any new friends or guys every time you go out alone. Eventually you will!
    
wel...enjoy your great experiences, and never say now before you try, okay? have a great gay time ;)

KolonG How to Succeed in the Gay Dating Scene?

well...its kinda hard to answer that question, people who know me i'm not that pretty cool men always succeed in my love life, hahahaa... slimo is not good enough, but some of the said, why you have 9 ex bf in your life? and most of them are cool...ask my pals how, hahaha...

talking bout dating scene, some of friend of mine give his sharring and i did his advice, hehehe...

It's all in the marketing.
i'm a marketing and i leaned much how to market something, also mine by having lot relation with any client, talking bout that and related with the case i may ask Have you ever considered what image you project? How's your attitude about life, being gay or dating? Do you walk with confidence or insecurity? It's important to consider these things when looking for a date. More times than not, you'll attract the type of guy that's attracted to the signals you're sending. So, if you're meeting the wrong type of guys (or the same type), try changing your attitude. If you don't normally smile, try giving guys a quick grin. If you give off an air of arrogance, try loosening up a bit. A little self-reflection and image adjustment can go a long way.
Fine tune your search.
How can you find Mr. Right if you don't have a vision of what he looks like? Make a list of the qualities you like in a guy. This may sound like a silly exercise, but a few minutes with a pad and paper can help you focus on finding the right man for you. Not long ago I wrote down the hair color, height range, ethnicity, and build of my ideal date and it's amazing how many guys I meet that fall within my "list." But don't just stop there - life isn't all about physical qualities. What kind of personality or demeanor would you like him to have? What about his family life? Keep your options open, though. Sometimes the cosmos have a way of surprising us.
Go where they go.
You wouldn't look for pasta sauce in the grocery store would you? Of course not. So why do most gay men look for specific types of guys in the wrong places. If you like a certain type of guy, go where those types of guys go. I'd love to say the world is an integrated utopia, but people tend to hang out with others with similar backgrounds or interests. Let's say you're looking for a guy that has an interest in theater; then join a local theater group or hang out at local venues frequented by theater lovers. If your dream lover is a body builder, then spend more time at the gym, because more than likely that's where he'll be most of the time.
Seek and enjoy!
Are you the life of the party or do you like to sit on the sidelines? Most gay men wait for their knight in shining Tiffany to come and swoop them up from the bar stool. You look, make eye contact and even flirt a bit, but do you ever make a move? Who doesn't want a handsome guy to come up and talk to them? unfortunately, this attitude has created an imbalance in the dating scene. Since everyone's waiting to be approached, there's no one doing the approaching; which is why it's not uncommon to go to a gay party and see everyone standing around in their own corners like at a middle school dance. Practice getting out of you comfort zone. Find a guy you like and try starting a conversation. To many gay men, the thought of doing this is terrifying, but with practice it will get more comfortable.
Find something in common.
Now that you're ready to walk up to a guy, what are you going to say to him? Well, in my experience two angles work best: breaking the ice and then finding something in common. Breaking the ice can be easier than you may think. Find something unique about him (article of clothing, jewelry, hair style), then comment on it. Try a humorous angle. Instead of saying, "I like your hair cut" try phrasing it in a way that will make him smile or continue a conversation. A better approach might be, "You know, my stylist said only certain guys can pull off that style. I guess you're one of them..." Hey, it may sound cheesy, but it strikes conversation and hopefully a blush. If you get stuck, then offer to buy him a drink. This buys you time to think about something else to talk about.
Once you've broken the ice, find something you guys have in common and go with it. If nothing is apparent ask him if he is interested in the things you're interested in and go from there.
Control your emotional valve.
my experience, even i call myself super slimo, but i wanna say i'm the most stone and untalkactive guy when meet boy of my type. So be honest and open with your new prospect, but don't give too much too soon. Connecting with someone you like can be an overwhelming experience in its beginning stages. Take your time getting to know one another and let the details of your life and your emotions unfold naturally. Your first date might not be the time to talk about work stress or emotional issues with your father. Spend time in the beginning getting comfortable with each other and slowly open up. That way neither one of you are overwhelmed too early in the relationship.
Play the odds and never give up.
Sometimes playing the dating game is like playing a slot machine. It's attractive with its many colors and sounds, but always uncertain. Of course, there's the potential of hitting the jackpot, but unless you're extremely lucky you have to play more than a few coins to hit big. If approaching a guy doesn't work the first time, then try, try again before you found word "yes" or "go away". Eventually it will pay off.

KolonG "why one nite stand?"

no...its not nite, its noon... can i say "one day stand?"

cause i know this is life, my life, never know where the life bring me in one good sin or one big yellow box called desire... tell me how it feel when nite come over and i traped in my own lonely, thinking about how wonderful touch from devil with angel mask, and blood of browsing pull me found him.

flash story suddenly he's in train way to my hometown, "just transit", blashed red face built feeling call "wanna meet", stay at town from 5am to 9am, than wanna leave to another town, bring no love no wondering just come to room no.6 and we share mind stone, words "me" and "you" become "us".

sms arrived: "sorry, low bat..last nite, so wanna meet?"

sms repplied: "you said you stay until 9am, end of work at 5pm, but really wanna meet you"

sms arrived: so come here then?"

sms repplied: "tell me where r u now i'll be there at lunch"

"i'm telling you still no hard feeling",

prince devil smile said...."my fatty bitch!! damn..."

fans rolling time high up noon, hot and full hell atmosphere..heart beating...become more fast"

"wanna irish kiss?"

"no...", but head said yes.. "damn..you're a best kisser"

"wanna dutch kiss?"

hemmmm...yeammm... outside someone step heard so load, laughing,...baby cry

"plz no deep anymore, my lips getting red"

desire...prince hell come bring his flame..., his dark suit off our clothes, lamp off lips travelling every single inch of body, sweat..., eiffel tower crush the sky, flower bloom birds flying saying "haleluyah...."

hold like fire, water pouring of the naked human with sin...won't love out from lips

"i have boy friend in trust"

"so do i..."

"promise me you need to do this again to me"

"go back, office calling..."

"but i still wanna stay with you"

"i'll text often"

motorcycle run with heaven air in my mind, i hate the world to day, you're so good to me i know but it can't change, i love you but...you're belong to someone else, so do i....beautiful sin come over me!!!

Cakra Hotel, Dagen Jogjakarta...July 29, 11.00am-12.30pm

KolonG Story Of UBE ("First Love" always the unforgettable love, why I can forget him?)

Officially first love is like any other love, it’s about feeling for the first in life time come directly through our heart and scared a beautiful moment to remember. First time we knew how the romantic was, first time we became stronger like a super, became loyal to someone very close, and knew how to care, to give more attention and probably the very first time we can touch and learn bout sex. People said that first love is very special thing, it was the very first moment of heart touch by the angel soul, the heaven breath than it was so special for any live have been through. 90% yes its true, the conclusion is agree that first love is always unforgettable. But in life love isn’t always good, talking about unforgettable is divine to be two part, are “good unforgettable story” or the “bad unforgettable one”. Its only you can figure it out which part that you had already been through.
Sept 2001, He came to my vision when my hearts run to dry, when all the world seemed to be my only enemy, and the time was stay off from the feeling of love. I was dream to know how to felt love, was wondering to share my live with. Found him frozen seat in the bus and I felt like fire burned my eyes, my soul and my own imagination, but his smile pouring the cold water inside bring me the peace I always dreamt above. Knowing that time when I felt like I’m flying without those angel wing, and my heart beat fastly and I even can’t take him off out my eyes, I never believe love from the first sight but I was feel that it was true. Than that shy guy (me) was only kept the feeling, be the best friend for him and pay more time just be with him. I knew he loved me like I did, but both heart seemed to be hard gathered the word “me” and ‘you” become “us”. Until that day came, it was a year after (whatta shame) and I finally figure it out that he can’t be my lover. Can’t understand the words “miss” and “love” he always sent to my sms, attention loaded for my bright days with, but when I said I wanted him too he just walk away from my life.
Learning from story I definitely knew and say to you “when you love someone, never ever hypocrite to say you love him, never keep that feeling and pretend to be unlike him, all you have to do is tell him you love him, directly, out of loadly, because when you hide that love even for a while, love will pass you away”. Now life goes on, follow my time, and I found many great love and other wonderful stories with some one else. For me “sometime love is just like “a thief”, come without greeting and goes with no saying good bye”. All we have to do is never ever hesitate to catch the feel, when you found someone you love and love you back. Take him, bring him to your life, cause the true happiness is when we knew that we love him and he love you too.
So, do you think first love is unforgettable love for you?

-TRUE STORY, SLIMO-

PS. theres a space inside my heart where i placed all our stories, love you forever...my 1st love ;)

KolonG Indonesian's Gay History

The first gay organization in Indonesia was founded in Solo in 1982,and it has been known to be the first one in Asia (read Barry Adam's"The Rise of a Gay and Lesbian Movement". Boston: Twayne Publishers,1991). The name of the organization was Lambda Indonesia, whichpublished a magazine called "G" (the letter "G" in the Indonesianlanguage is pronounced "gay").

The organization did not lastlong enough, nor was it large enough, but it has certainly raisedan awareness of existing gays and lesbians in Indonesia.Homosexuality is not illegal in Indonesia, and has traditionallybeen part of the culture. However, even though it is not illegal,it is not socially-desirable in western-oriented modern, urbanIndonesia. Another interesting cultural aspect is the existenceof "waria" (man-woman) which one would find in popular cultureall over the country. Warias are mostly cross-dressers/transgendersworking as entertainers, hairdressers, models, etc. and arevery much accepted in Indonesian society without being frownedat. (In 1967 the governor of Jakarta even organized a "MissDrag Queen Indonesia"......2 years before Stonewall!! :)Indonesians do not face discrimination in jobs such as their counterparts in other countries; therefore gays in Indonesia are lesspolitical. Nor do they have to hang out in exclusive gay bars,since physical intimacy between members of the same sex are notfrowned at. BUT the biggest issue gays have to face is "comingout to your family", since there is a big pressure to getmarried. The gay movement in Indonesia, therefore focusesmore on counseling, empowerment, and developing a positivegay identity within the Indonesian social environment.

There are now 11 "official" gay organizations scattered aroundthe country.
KKLGN, roughly translated as the Nusantara Gayand Lesbian Committee, is the national network based in Surabaya.They will be the one organizing the Asian conference next year.("Nusantara" means archipelago, and is the Indonesian termfor the country. Indonesia is a multicultural country of 13,000islands; whenever Indonesians talk about the pluralism of thecountry they use the word "Nusantara"; when they want toemphasize the national unity, then they use the term "Indonesia")

-SLIMO-

KolonG ISLAM "Recognizes Homosexuality"

Homosexuals and homosexuality are natural and created by God, thus permissible within Islam, a discussion concluded here Thursday.
Moderate Muslim scholars said there were no reasons to reject homosexuals under Islam, and that the condemnation of homosexuals and homosexuality by mainstream ulema and many other Muslims was based on narrow-minded interpretations of Islamic teachings.
Siti Musdah Mulia of the Indonesia Conference of Religions and Peace cited the Koran's al-Hujurat (49:3) that one of the blessings for human beings was that all men and women are equal, regardless of ethnicity, wealth, social positions or even sexual orientation.
"There is no difference between lesbians and nonlesbians. In the eyes of God, people are valued based on their piety," she told the discussion organized by nongovernmental organization Arus Pelangi.
"And talking about piety is God's prerogative to judge," she added.
"The essence of the religion (Islam) is to humanize humans, respect and dignify them."
Musdah said homosexuality was from God and should be considered natural, adding it was not pushed only by passion.
Mata Air magazine managing editor Soffa Ihsan said Islam's acknowledgement of heterogeneity should also include homosexuality.
He said Muslims needed to continue to embrace ijtihad (the process of making a legal decision by independent interpretation of the Koran and the Sunnah) to avoid being stuck in the old paradigm without developing open-minded interpretations.
Another speaker at the discussion, Nurofiah of the Nahdlatul Ulama (NU), said the dominant notion of heterogeneity was a social construction, leading to the banning of homosexuality by the majority.
"Like gender bias or patriarchy, heterogeneity bias is socially constructed. It would be totally different if the ruling group was homosexuals," she said.

Other speakers said the magnificence of Islam was that it could be blended and integrated into local culture.
"In fact, Indonesia's culture has accepted homosexuality. The homosexual group in Bugis-Makassar tradition called Bissu is respected and given a high position in the kingdom.
"Also, we know that in Ponorogo (East Java) there has been acknowledgement of homosexuality," Arus Pelangi head Rido Triawan said.
Condemnation of homosexuality was voiced by two conservative Muslim groups, the Indonesian Ulema Council (MUI) and Hizbut Thahir Indonesia (HTI).
"It's a sin. We will not consider homosexuals an enemy, but we will make them aware that what they are doing is wrong," MUI deputy chairman Amir Syarifuddin said.
Rokhmat, of the hardline HTI, several times asked homosexual participants in attendance to repent and force themselves to gradually return to the right path.

Islam 'recognizes homosexuality'
base data : Abdul Khalik , The Jakarta Post , Jakarta Fri, 03/28/2008 1:38 AM Headlines

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