KolonG "Single and very happy" [new part]

I would like to state that I am not “anti-relationship.” Becoming a successful single is about learning to be happy with yourself; it’s not about an outright rejection of couplehood. Learning how to be a successful single will give you the right perspectives, put you in a better state of mind, give you more self-confidence, and reinforce a positive image of yourself. The way you feel about yourself is apparent to others. Whether your goal is to eventually find a relationship, or if you just want to become more accepting of being single.

Becoming a successful single requires you to have confidence in yourself. The first thing that you have to do in order to become a successful single is to have a positive attitude. A positive attitude is your first line of defense.
Your attitude determines your level of happiness. Lets find the way and keep being happy;

1. Take charge of your reality and give up all that envy! Stop worrying about everyone else around you getting into relationships, and thinking that you need to as well. All those happy couples in movies and TV shows are the fabrications of Hollywood writers designed to sell tickets and get high TV ratings. Real couples have messy lives—they fight, leave the bathroom dirty and steal the remote from each other. Give up those unrealistic fantasies of your 'soulmate', and notice how most people around you are just regular folk - good people, but not magical heroes who fix each others' lives.

2. Focus on becoming the best person you can be. Take classes, work out, do volunteer work, go to therapy, do whatever your heart desires. Remember that everything you do should be for you! High self confidence will attract more friends and maybe in the long run even a little romance. (Once you become the person you like, though, you may be less willing to compromise what's important for romance.)

3. Indulge yourself. Go out and get your sauna, have a spa day or get a massage. Just because you don't have someone to impress or please doesn't mean you should stop pleasing yourself. You are a strong, independent person who deserves the best. So give it to yourself!

4. Play the field. Go out and have fun. Go out to clubs with your friends. Dance and flirt with others if you like. Don't be afraid to give or take phone numbers, just realize that nothing may come of it.

5. Realize that you are still lucky and fortunate. Many people around the world are either: chronically ill, homeless, living in poverty, starving, fleeing from warfare, and have no personal freedoms due to dictatorships. If you are depressed and think you are not lucky because you are single, think again!. People in those aforementioned conditions have it harder than you!

6. Take up a new hobby! Learn guitar, go for watersport activities, write a novel, cook some gourmet meals! Whatever you've ever wanted to do, do it now. Trying something new can lead to new skills, friendships, and self esteem.

7. Look in the mirror. Say things that you like about yourself. Repeat phrases to yourself such as "I am a strong, and handsome individual" and tell your reflection that you love you. You need to know that you cannot expect others to make you happy. You are the only person who can make you happy in the end.

8. Become an optimist man. This is a trait that helps you whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed! Keep a gratitude diary and every night think of 3 things you are grateful for. Find the silver lining in everything throughout your day, and savor little pleasures. You'll live longer, make it through tough times more smoothly, and even avoid the common cold more often! You are likely enduring a difficult time as a result of being single. This doesn’t mean your life is over or that you don’t deserve to be happy. Do things you enjoy with others. Take steps to promote your own physical and emotional healing by staying active in your daily life patterns or by adjusting them. This healthy outlook will help you. Make commitments and keep them.

Kolon-G "Back for good"

HEY....I'M BACK, SUPER SLIMO HERE

Right through the time I'm leaving guys, leaving with many stories. guys I'm falling in love again, God Dan With straight man again, And when I think about it, most love stories start that way for amateur gay man. I just smile. people just tried, I just tried.

Every moment leading up to the one in which you meet your future man somehow shapes you and prepares you for that person you were fated for. Any previous heartbreaks or dark days or lonely nights can be crucially important in the grand scheme of things—sometimes we need to know what something feels like when it’s wrong before we can ever really know it when another thing is RIGHT.

well....let the song from Justin "holy grail" be our forever song. I love him, yes and I just love hi, but as I ever wrote in my blog before, always make sure that like the right man that like man too.

KolonG "How to be a better Bottom"

Bottoming ( being fucked ) is just as much fun as Topping ( fucking ), and if done right can be the gateway to sensual delights man hath not even dreamed of.
There are always new ways in which you can be a better bottom. As a versatile boy I get the best of both worlds and I want to share with you some of the tricks that I have picked up during my shenanigans.

Before we co any further we need to get the uncomfortable stuff out of the way. It may be yucky to think about but there is no point proceeding any further without having first discussed “preparation”. Lots of people avoid talking about this part and yet funnily enough it is the thing I get asked about the most. Getting yourself ready to bottom is important both for your comfort and peace of mind. It will be impossible to relax if you are worrying about having an “accident”.

Position.

Position is important and if your Top is not driving the situation then don’t be afraid to move around and get him where you want to go. Starting by sitting on top of him is a good way to begin if you are having trouble relaxing or experiencing pain. If you are on top you can control the angle and depth until you have loosened up enough to change positions.

Find a good lube.

Lube is important and a bad lube can ruin a hot session just as easily as forgetting to douche. Don’t be sucked in by cheap generics. If you are going to enjoy yourself then get the good stuff. Remember lube doesn’t just help him slide it in, it also helps him slide out and in and out and in and out and in. Everyone has a favourite, personally I like the silicon based Swiss Navy, if find the water based stuff tends to dry out and get sticky.

Move it, grind it, bounce it.

Moving around is important. Don’t be a starfish. One thing that drives a lot of Tops crazy is when the bottom pushes back to meet his thrusts. Don’t be afraid to be a little bit aggressive. If going doggy style arch your back to make your ass really pop, it also makes it easier for the Top to access you and  helps prevent those frustrating slip outs.

Grinding your hips is another great trick. If you are sitting on top and you grind it just right you can hit your prostate and clench your ass muscles at the same time to drive your Top nuts! Once the heat turns up and you are feeling in the swing of things go for the bounce but be careful not to go too far or too fast. Coming down too hard or letting him slip out is a sure way to cause an injury. Alternate the grind and bounce for a real treat.

Scratch, bite and moan.

You have arms… use them. Run your nails down his back ( gently, we aren't getting all Wolverine on him… yet ), pull him into you to show him you want it. Nibble on his ear, neck and arms, be gentle, it’s not a Twilight rerun. If you like something the easiest way to let a guy know is to moan, softly, loudly, whatever…  you will know what’s appropriate.

Grooming.

Keeping things neat and tidy down there will help keeps things running smoothly. You don’t have to be hairless, every top will have their own preference. Try to avoid shaving right before sex though. Apart from the health risks of cuts, stubble can also cause chaffing to your Tops equipment while causing ingrown hairs and stubble rash to you. A good lube helps avoid this but it’s worth mentioning.

It’s sex, not porn.

If you are new to Sex and to Bottoming remember that Sex is fun but it is also messy and awkward at times. The best thing is to know your limits and approach it with a sense of humor. Sure double penetration looks hot on Corbin Fisher but it’s probably not something you want to try for your first time. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that if you can’t take it like a porn star then you are no good. Focus on what you find pleasurable and on what your partner enjoys and you can’t really go wrong.

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KolonG "How To Be A Great Top for your bot partner"

Screwing a guy should be as much about giving him pleasure, as getting it for yourself.
One thing that you can do to enhance your partner's pleasure is to use longer strokes. A lot of guys tend to slip their 'member' inside their partner, and just use quick short strokes. Boring.

If you're a guy with a sizable endowment (congratulations), or a guy with a partner that doesn't get screwed too often and is really tight, there are a couple of things you can do to make things easier for him.
One is to first loosen him up. You can rim him or you can finger him. Select a lube that you prefer if you're going to finger him. Work a single finger up his butt and see how he reacts, then try two, if you're feeling adventurous and so is he, try three. Don't move the fingers in and out too much, let your partner get used to idea of having something inside of him.

Once he feels comfortable, try slipping just your head inside of him. As you feel it slip in then stop and hold it there for a while. As your partner adjusts push in a little more. If you see your partner wince then stop and hold it there, pull out just a little if he needs you to.
This way you should eventually be able to get most if not all of your 'member' inside of him. Once you do, use long strokes for the maximum amount of pleasure. Try not to pull completely out of him while screwing. That can cause air to get packed inside your partner's bum which can lead to some rather embarrassing results. Though slipping the head in and out of your partner's butt can be a wonderful way to tease him.
Don't forget about your partner's 'member' while screwing him. If his 'member' is accessible play with it, it can also be fun to slap his bum playfully while doing him.

Screwing can get pretty routine. If you're used to one or two positions only, we urge you to try new ones. Encourage your partner to try new ways. Also try different locations, other than your bedroom or bed. Have you ever been on a secluded country road and bent your partner over the hood of a car while screwing him? On the balcony of your house/apartment? In a sex club or in a hot tub? Have you ever done it on a hillside while overlooking a beautiful view, or on a beach on a starry night? You can try different places around your house too. As popular a stereotype as it may be - we don't recommend airplane lavatories, they are usually way too cramped, and if you think the flight attendants won't notice? - well, don't be surprised if they offer you a cigarette after you come out.

When it comes to lubes there is a wide variety of choices that are available to you. Everything from spit to tons of commercial brands. We're not too fond of commercial sex lubricants. They tend to get too sticky, or they dry up, or they can be way too slick, or they are a big pain to clean up. One lube that gets overlooked quite often is a good water based hand and body lotion.
We prefer lotion because there is a lot less stuff to clean up, they tend to absorb somewhat (where sex lubes do not), and they provide just enough lubrication to make things comfortable, and not so much that you feel like you're screwing a moist rag.

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KolonG "Tips For Giving Oral Pleasure That'll Drive Him Crazy"

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KolonG "9 reasons you should have sex everyday"

If you thought that the only benefit of sex was, well,  pleasure, here's some news for you. Making love is good for adults. And making love regularly is even better.
Not only does it help you sleep well, relieve stress and burn calories, there are also several other reasons why you need to have sex more often.

Improves cardiovascular health A recent study says that men who have sex more than twice a week, have a lesser risk of getting a heart attack, than men who had sex less than once a month.

Increases immunity Regular lovemaking increases the level of the immune-boosting antibody immunological A (IgA), which in turn makes your body stronger against illnesses like the common cold and fever.

Reduces stress Stressed out with work or family problems? Don't let it affect your performance in the bedroom. Not only will having sex improve your mood, but a study has also proven that folks, who indulge in regular bedroom activities can handle stress better and are happier people.

Relieves pain If you're using a headache as an excuse to not make love, stop doing that. Have sex instead, because, when you're about to have an orgasm, the level of the hormone oxytocin increases by five times. This endorphin actually reduces aches and pains.

Promotes longevity When one has an orgasm, a hormone called dehydroepiandrosterone is released. This improves immunity, repairs tissue and keeps the skin healthy. Men, who have at least two orgasms a week, live longer than men who have sex just once every few weeks.

Increases blood circulation Because your heart rate increases when you have sex, fresh blood is supplied to your organs and cells. While used blood is removed, the body also expels toxins and other materials that cause you to feel tired.

You sleep better The sleep that you get just after you've made love will be much more relaxed. Getting a good night's sleep will make you feel alert and overall healthy.

Improves overall fitness If you find going to the gym mundane or working out at home a task, here's another way to help you lose the flab and keep in shape. Regular sex will do wonders for your waistline. Half an hour of lovemaking burns more than 80 calories.

Increases levels of Oestrogen and testosterone In men, the hormone testosterone is what makes them more passionate in the sack. Not only will it make you feel way better in bed, but it also improves your muscles and bones, keeps your heart healthy and keeps a check on your cholesterol. In women, on the other hand, the hormone oestrogen protects them against heart disease and also determines a woman's body scent.

HAVE YOU ALREADY SEX TODAY?

KolonG "Manfaat Menelan Sperma" [2nd part]

Apakah menelan sperma atau sperma tertelan itu berbahaya? Pertanyaan ini sering diajukan oleh kalangan gay. Karena memang teknik oral-seks (fellatio) merupakan salah satu kegiatan seks yang umum dan sering dilakukan dalam hubungan seks sejenis.

Mitos menelan sperma bisa membuat awet muda juga belum bisa dibuktikan kebenarannya secara ilmiah. Termasuk pula mitos kandungan gizi di dalam sperma yang setara dengan sekian liter susu, juga masih diperdebatkan. Jadi Untuk mengetahui jawabanya, harus melihat beberapa hal yang berkaitan dengan tertelannya sperma, diantaranya kandungan zat dalam sperma, dan kesehatan organ intim.
Bicara mengenai sperma tertelan bisa dipastikan ada hubungannya dengan aktifitas Oral Seks. Sebagai bagian dari aktivitas seks di kalangan gay, memang tidak menjadi sebuah keharusan, karena toh masih banyak juga alternatif hubungan seks yang lain. Namun beberapa pasangan gay menjadikan aktivitas oral-seks sebagai aktivitas utama.

Hal ini sangat tergantung sekali dengan pengalaman seks pasangan atau pemahaman tentang seks. Pada seks oral yang dilakukan oleh banyak kalangan gay, memang terkadang sering berakhir pada ejakulasi di dalam mulut, dan karena inilah kenapa sperma bisa tertelan. Yang perlu diwaspadai adalah apakah bagian intim dari pasangan seks tersebut sehat?
Jika mengalami infeksi berupa penyakit kelamin, tentu sangat beresiko terhadap kesehatan. Begitu juga jika ditemukan adanya luka makro pada mulut pasangan, misalnya sariawan, penyakit radang gusi dan sebagainya, maka sperma yang tertelan bisa saja menularkan penyakit. Belum lagi luka mikro yang seringkali tidak pernah kita sadari.
Cairan semen dan sperma yang masuk ke mulut akan turun ke lambung, dan bercampur dengan asam lambung lantas turun ke usus, kemudian dicerna bersama dengan makanan lainnya. Mulut, lambung dan usus adalah bagian dari sistem pencernaan tubuh dan bukan sistem reproduksi sehingga menelan sperma tidak akan menyebabkan kehamilan.
Dan jika tidak ada luka (baik luka makro ataupun mikro), maka sperma yang tertelan tidak akan berdampak buruk. Namun sebaliknya, jika ada luka (baik luka makro ataupun luka mikro), maka menelan sperma sangat beresiko tertular berbagai penyakit.
Untuk itu sebelum melakukan aktifitas oral seks ada baiknya mengikuti beberapa tips sehat oral seks seperti pada ulasan disini.

Permasalahan lain adalah kaitannya dengan kandungan zat dalam sperma itu sendiri. Apakah sperma memiliki zat gizi yang bermanfaat ataukah justru mengandung zat yang berbahaya?

Berikut ini adalah beberapa kandungan zat kimia dalam sel sperma:
Calcium: Komposisi ini sangat berguna untuk tulang dan gigi bahkan untuk menjaga fungsi otot dan syaraf.
Citric Acid: Berguna untuk mencegah penggumpalan darah dalam tubuh
Creatine: Berguna untuk menambah tenaga dan pembentukan otot dan juga dapat berfungsi sebagai pembakar lemak dalam tubuh
Ergothioneine: Berfungsi sebagai pelindungan kulit dari kerusakan DNA
Fructose: Dapat berfungsi sebagai pencerna gula dalam tubuh yang sangat bermanfaat sebagai pencegah penyakit diabetes. Kebanyakan Fructose juga berbahaya karena bisa menyebabkan penyakit asam urat.
Glutathione: Komposisi kimia ini sangat berguna sebagai obat pencegah kanker, mencegah penggumpalan darah selama operasi dan menambah kemanjuran obat kemoterapi.
Inositol: Berfungsi mencegah kerontokan pada rambut
Lactic Acid: Berfungsi sebagai bahan untuk luka bakar dan luka pembedahan
Lipid: Berfungsi sebagai pembakar lemak
Pyruvic Acid: Berfungsi sebagai penyubur
Sorbitol: Dipergunakan oleh ahli farmasi sebagai bahan untuk mengatasi sembelit
Urea: Berfungsi untuk mengeluarkan nitrogen yang berlebih dalam tubuh
Uric Acid: Berguna sebagai pencegah penyakit diabetes tetapi kebanyakan Uric Acid akan menyebakan penyakit encok, dll
Sulfur: Berguna untuk menghaluskan kulit.
Vitamin B12 dan Zinc: Sebagai penambah stamina

Nah itulah beberapa kandungan kimia yang terdapat dalam sperma. Penjelasan fungsi zat kimia di atas bukan berarti jika sperma di telan bisa berguna seperti hal-hal tersebut, melainkan fungsi zat kimia yang sering digunakan untuk kesehatan juga terdapat dalam sperma. Namun yang perlu dipertegas adalah jumlah atau kuantitas zat kandungan tersebut seberapa kecil terdapat dalam cairan sperma yang memang tidak terlalu banyak tersebut.

Lalu apa efek atau dampak nya jika menelan sperma?
Dengan melihat kedua hal tersebut diatas yaitu kesehatan dan kandungan zat, maka menelan sperma tidak ada efek samping dan jika tidak ditemukan masalah penyakit maka sperma bukanlah zat yang berbahaya.
Sperma juga hanya mengandung sedikit kalori dan zat gizi, sehingga menelan sperma tidak akan menyebabkan kegemukan. Sel sperma yang sudah keluar juga tidak bisa bertahan lama hidup, apalagi di lambung sepl sperma ini akan mati saat bercampur dengan asam lambung, sehingga sperma yang tertelan tidak akan menyebabkan kehamilan.
Namun jika ditemukan ada luka (luka makro atau sariawan di mulut dan gusi serta luka mikro), maka menelan atau tertelan sperma bisa beresiko tertular berbagai macam penyakit, seperti Gonore, Sipilis, Herpes hingga HIV/AIDS.
Berdasarkan uraian di atas, maka dapat disimpulkan sebagai berikut:
Seks oral tanpa kondom dapat menularkan penyakit jika pasangan terinfeksi.
Selama seks oral dilakukan, anda sesungguhnya telah melakukan kontak langsung dengan penyakit (jika ada). Jadi menelan air mani tidak akan membuat banyak perbedaan dalam hal ini, karena sama saja.
Sperma dari pria yang sehat atau menelan sperma sendiri sama sekali tidak berbahaya. Bahkan pada pria yang sehat, jumlah kuman dalam sperma mereka kemungkinan jauh lebih sedikit daripada jumlah bakteri dalam air liur pria gay yang mengoral.

Ya, pria gay yang menelan sperma akan mendapatkan asupan nutrisi dari sperma yang ditelan. Namun kadar dan jumlahnya sangat sedikit.
Menelan sperma tidak akan menyebabkan kehamilan.
Asalkan pria sehat dan tidak memiliki penyakit seksual maka menelan sperma aman dilakukan.

Menelan sperma bagi gay sangat beresiko dan sangat berbahaya, jika ditemukan ada luka (luka makro atau sariawan di mulut dan gusi serta luka mikro). Karena menelan atau tertelan sperma bisa beresiko tertular berbagai macam penyakit, seperti Gonore, Sipilis, Herpes hingga HIV/AIDS

KolonG "10 tips How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Regret Breaking It Off with you"

After being broken up with, it may seem impossible to pull your life back together and get back in control of your emotions, but with the right tactics before you know it you will be back to that confident, independent, happy man that your ex first fell in love with. Here's some tips of it;

1. Think about what you've learned from the relationship, and start using that in a daily basis. It may not have worked out between you, but maybe you learned better listening skills, to be less possessive or how to set personal boundaries.

2. Don't repress your feelings. This doesn't mean contacting your ex or making it public how much pain you are in. Take time to yourself to journal, go for a walk or go for coffee with a close friend to talk about the relationship and how you are feeling.

3. Write down a list of seven great qualities you have, and post it somewhere you will read it every day. Remember that people break up and start dating for many different reasons. Often times the break-up is not a reflection of you personally, rather the other persons issues. Try not to blame yourself or think that you no longer have anything to offer the world.

4. Don't rebound. This may temporarily make you feel better, but even after months of the new relationship when it's all said and done you will still be left with unresolved feelings about your ex. Take time to heal, stand on your own two feet. There is nothing more attractive then a confident, independent person.

5. Resist the urge to contact your ex. Your brain will be looking for any way possible to get in contact with him, or see how they're doing. Resist at all costs! By contacting him, you are submitting to his emotional manipulation and showing him that you are still obsessing over the break-up.

6. Breathe. Allow your emotions to take their natural course and don't push away feelings of rejection or hurt. They are normal and once fully experienced you will have a renewed sense of strength.

7. Keep yourself busy. When you have memory flashbacks or miss your ex's company, do anything to take your mind off it. It could be anything from rearranging your shelves to trying a new recipe.

8. Stay away from alcohol or other emotion evoking substances. You may think a night out with friends will be the perfect remedy, until that night of fun turns into tears in the bathroom and drunk texting.

9. Be mature about the situation. Don't send him hate mail, or give him any reason to be upset with you. You want him to remember you as the one that got away, not the psycho man who never left him alone after he broke it off.

10. Smile. Showing that you can find something to be happy about will attract positive people and things into your life. Break-ups can be devastating, but they also make you a stronger person. Let the warmth of your personality shine through that wonderful smile, and one day he'll realize what he lost.

[Adopted from: http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Your-Ex-Boyfriend-Regret-Breaking-It-Off]

KolonG "How to know your ex-boy friend still miss you"

"How do I know my ex boyfriend still misses me or not?" Is a normal question in a gay world when a man searches answer for after a relationship ends once he wants to reunite with his ex boyfriend. When you still love your ex boyfriend, it's natural to desire to be aware of his feelings towards you. Gay men get themselves into an emotional place where they long for their ex boyfriend so much that they just want to reach out to him. To these men, sending a text message seems like a safe way to let their ex know they miss him. The problem is that if you’re sending that message when you’re feeling overwhelmed Since, if you are considering getting back together with your ex boyfriend, you don't wish to risk getting hurt once more as a result of admitting your love and then discovering that his feelings are different. Nobody desires to open themselves up and afterward get abandoned. 

Below are some of the simple strategies and tips that will make your ex-boyfriend think of you and miss you like crazy;

1. Disappears, Absence is usually known to make the heart of men grow fonder each day. When you make yourself unavailable by not answering his calls or calling him back, he will start missing you, by answering the phone on the first ring means that he won’t miss you since he’ll know that you’ll always be at his call and beck. It is also important to use this time to catch up with your other friends and have fun, you can also do the things that you had wished to do while you were together or take a trip and give yourself enough time. This will help since you will create unexpected attention from him and also you will have enough time to relax and rest.

2. Don't mope and show him that you're desperate to him back, Male usually expects his partner to wallow and mope in grief after they brake-up and therefore you shouldn’t give him the guarantee or satisfaction of being right but instead you should live your life. Meet new people, go out and have fun to the maximum. This trick is to make you act and pretend that you have not been affected by the breakup and also you will look indifferent from what he expected. When he realizes that you are more confident and happier, he will unknowingly miss you.

3. Don't be angry, Specialists have proven that men are usually turned off by weepy. You should avoid as much as possible not to give in to any negative emotions because you might end up being angry or even weep over him. Act and smile and you will create more impressions even if he tries to resist. Definitely, he will not tell you that he is missing you but you will learn from his actions. If he tries to call you again, know that you have got him and it is advisable not to run back immediately. Give him more time. 4. Improve your situation, When your ex-boyfriend sees that you are improving things in life and becoming more attractive, he will definitely feel as though he is missing you. Never sit at home when you breakup with him, you may also consider dating again but shouldn’t be nothing serious and go out with friends. By mastering the art of him needing you back like crazy you will be able to bring him back within the shortest period and also he will never want to be away from you. 

so... wanna know does he still miss you or not after broke up? try it!!-SuperSLIMO-