KolonG SINGLE AND HAPPY ;))

Living alone doesn't have to mean being lonely; not if you like the person you live with. Some people actually choose to live alone; they prefer it to any other situation. Then there are those who live alone by necessity; they have no other choice.

“Unfortunately, society puts so much pressure on singles, to be in relationships that people forget that they have to be happy with themselves in order to be happy with someone else. That applies to friendships as well as intimate relationships.”

It is understandable that you may feel lonely and disconnected when you are on your own, but you must really master the art of being alone and happy before you will be able to be in a happy relationship. The best way you can jump start this realization would be to find a life purpose/passion. Many singles are waiting for a relationship to infuse their life with passion and purpose, not realizing that having a loving partner is not a substitute for a meaningful life. You must find a purpose for waking up in the morning, have a vision of your place in the world and what contribution you want to leave. Be powered by your passion, by taking action.
Being single is a choice. well, happiness is a state of mind. If you're not happy with yourself, in relationship or single, won't make a difference. There are however several things about being single and happy at the same time, that are advantageous. Being single and happy means that you can have a fella over to dinner, have fun to close with anyone else at the end of the evening, free to love all your pals.

best pal said "I am happy being single again. The one thing that I hated dealing with when it was over between my boyfriend and I was the loneliness. I didn't like the drama and I love going out to clubs and parties. I have lot friends to go out with and party with. I love going to places that I never been before. "

Being Single and happy depend on your life, You must be as enthusiastic in discovering yourself as you were in discovering other people. The more you like YOU, the happier you will be living even alone. The cliche "If it not broke don't fix it," Make yourself into someone interesting, someone you'll enjoy living with. If you're unhappy living alone, you've no one to blame but yourself. ;))

KolonG "Learn from the lost love"

I was thinking how to bring myself to a commitment, I just broke up with my boy but I thank for him for make me more strong in life,

1. I Learned from the past to advised that we can Rewarding Relationship What we are in Current live,

Life is full of ups and downs. The only reason, why when we are experiencing our feelings tide of life so extraordinary is because of the low tide situation that we experienced such a devastating our hearts.
Maybe we will not recognize what it feels like to have the overwhelming feeling we never had a bad one. The same principle applies in a relationship. They are never wrong in finding Mr. / Miss Right will be a better person. The next moment, when we try to go through difficult relationships we experience because the relationship is not going well, remember what an incredible feeling later on when we finally found someone who really fit with us.

2. I Know How Diverse Facing Problems Of A Relationship,

Maybe we see failure as a disgrace to dark relationship in career relationship, think again. Every relationship will give us more experience to deal with various problems that we can not avoid. But we are more familiar with a variety situations, the more we feel equipped to face any problems in the future relationship.

3. A Mistake To Evade Moving Forward,

Although the emotions we feel dry and crumble, but the end of love will give us many valuable insight into what should be avoided as we fall in love again. We can stop the bad habit, is able to overcome some problems in communication and check out other things that might go wrong and make our relationship never ragged. The more we realize the mistakes of past and may never make us get to the lowest level ones, the less for us to repeat it.

Now I'm not carried away by desire about what we do not get, hopefully the higher one's level of maturity for me to appreciate my next partners, the spirit well, thanks for my ex-BF ;))

KolonG "Love and Cake"

Have you ever confronted by two choices? have you ever hard to choose one in two? or you choose both, or even pick one but by secret you also choose the other without being noticed?

Life is always with a lot of choices, like a man who was never enough to find the best, my story today might be the lesson that the feeling is not always betrayed, that man still has a heart in determining the people who loved, but with the story today, the more I know that only people with big hearts who are able to choose the best in his life, as well as in love ..

Love and the cake turned out to connect, often times we see people are always confused in determining persons to be elected, the person he loves, because he faced not only an option, but two, three, or more, but after all love is always associated with two feelings, to the people who love and be loved, no matter what we should do is the one who prefers the best and are committed to that feeling. like when we go to a patisserie, a lot of cakes choices and are very seductive in front of us, but somehow we have to choose the best one, because when we choose two, and store the other cake just to make it look that we choose only one, time will lead and could show that the only ex-cake garbage through the stench, until eventually the reality will open that we were not the only cake ever he chooses, that there was another cake behind him that he also keep and enjoy, and the fact it will be very painful , because we assume that he is the best man who have chosen us as the only cake of his best,

man will never enough before he learn to say "enough" to what he ever got, though it was his best,

And so in love, like choosing a cake, choose the best one, make sure that it is the best option, most delicious and especially from other pastries, cause You can not "eat" the cake and "keep" it too , love is about choice, eat it or keep it ";)

to all of friends who are confused to choose now, be fair, choose the best one, be an adult to be honest, and enjoy the beauty of commitment by your choice, because when you cheat and save the others, time will open the reality, and you will lose both the best, and remember that feeling of injured people can change the world and show you that you will regret throwing the best one, congratulations for your vote! ;))

By-SLIMO-;))

KolonG "He's gay or straight?"

This is particularly big problem for the gay when you dont't know you loves a gay boy or the straight one, cause when you knew that he's straight, it seemed like you living in a dream world, feel love flying and blooming inside your heart but it hard to wake up to the real life. In gay life we lot of trapped love to a straight dudes. Feel like a fool when you do care of him, loving him that much, expecting his attention, text you at your mobile just wondering he write romance quote and its so hurt to figure it out that you’re not the one he want, badly he has a woman beside. Than you blame your self why you knew him, met him and created that feel. You can’t blame him in here, but look at you, you might take the wrong step arrange your feeling when you decided to love him. Don’t worry, sometime love just crush easier when we realize that we meet some one who really match, when you feeling lonely and he’s the only one who give you a care. Than without confirmation of both hearts you’re in love with him.
It was long time ago when I just broke up with my bf and knowing that I met some Mr. Nice man, he seemed gentle and did care of me. He even knew my favorite foods, companied me to go to the bar and club, so nice treat me like a special person for his life. But one day when I said that I love him he said he’s straight and just want have good friendship with me

Knowing this case I will share my experience how to figure it out about him. See the test to recognize him; is he a gay boy or a straight one?

1.Gay boys love to be perfect and love trend, Gay and metro sexual almost same indeed, they love fashion, hang out, shopping, go to the body treatment and love come to the societies. But most of gay men sometimes to much in trend, try to look at his style, his accessories, and look his performance. Gay man pouring more perfume to his body, take care of his skin brightly than a straight man, need more time to decide what color of his clothes to day and how many hours his preparation just want to go to the event. A straight men need plenty of time to care of it. So its your time to focus is he gay or not by look of his performance

2.Gay boys love gym and doing sport, meanwhile a straight one, but the value of gym time are totally deferent, straight man gym just for their health care, can be once or twice a week, but gay men must be very often, they want look more sexy, six-pack cause it really needed in their social life. Otherwise they may spend everyday in gym or sauna, cause they also searching to the new boys in there.

3.Gay prefer chat about boys than girls, jump him to the private chat, asking bout what he like and what type of girls he love. Even gay men love to pretend and cover his stories bout the girl, they may not specific. A straight men will telling you any secret stories with his girls, you may ask some advice and he will give you full of night bed stories or how he loves his girl much. But if he said he lazy to talk bout his girl and want to know more of your life, it’s a sign he interest with you. Or pretend answer the phone of your lover and wait his response, gay men will silence and hide his knowing. Otherwise make some idea bout he’s think of gay life, create fool story of your pal gay life and see his response, and if he pay attention with your case, you know how to take the next step ;)

4.Gay has lot girls pal than boys, knowing some word that “gay is a girls best pal” is really obvious that he’s gay, gay can understand girl, can be share with company her to the mall and give advice of her look, and women will feel comfort stay close with, cause they know gay don’t love girl ;) so make sure with your survey bout his best friends, search to his blog, his facebook or his real societies, more girls or boys?

5.Eyes testing bring him to the crowded restaurant, look at his eyes move, more response when there’s a group of girls or boys? Another test by asking his opinion of the group boys in the corner, so you can figure it out who is he, gay or not?

6.Single bed sleep, ask him travelling in a same room, or ask him to come to your room after office hours, a straight men will come and sleep with his back in front of your eyes directly when he is tired or need some rest, but gay men playing with his eyes to knowing what you do and what you want to do, pretend to be close eyes and sleep and wait his act

7.Ask confirmation, its the final step knowing if he's gay or not by asking him directly if he's gay or straight.

Well..make some analyst first before you fall in love with some boy, make sure he’s a gay or straight, cause the bad one when we’re totally in love with some boy and then knowing that he’s a straight one, oh…that’s so hurt, baby!! ;(

KolonG "How not to fall in love with your best friend?"

Most of time we always spend so much time with our best friend together, having lunch, gym, traveling and stay in one room, clubbing and so, you can talk about anything, and you know each others secrets. most of days You buy each other things, just because you know you'll like that. You're always there for each other, and are in fact each others default dates to functions when you couldn't get anyone else. Sooner or later, at least one of you would fall in love with the other.

When you knew it, its extremely difficult, especially when you really have so much fun together and admit it he's attractive. But it is possible to not ever be romantically involved with your best friend. It is usually advisable to keep things that way, too. Here are a few tips to help prevent you from crossing the line;

1. Keep in mind that your best friend will always be your best friend. The mind over matter rule might still work for you, Forbid yourself from entertaining thoughts of your best friend being the man you've been waiting for, because you will eventually convince yourself that he is even if he probably is not. Whenever your mind wanders dangerously close to that line, give yourself a good, firm shake. set your mind that all of his care is about giving care to his best friend too.

2. Decide not to be attracted. In fact, try to feel embarrassed about even considering it. Of course you became friends because you saw a lot of great qualities in each other that made you click, that's why its inevitable to feel attracted to each other. But to avoid falling for his great qualities, humorously think of his worst traits especially the really weird and gross ones.

3. Avoid situations where you are left alone with each other, as this allows a breeding place for passion. It will happen when you need more time to share your problem, both of you guys prefer go sumwhere silence, bring cans of beer and drunk and talk between heart to heart, it will attract to hug each other, this psychical touch may built some strange feeling, and you will flying to his arm of warm, it's very dangerous...

4. Know all the negative consequences falling in love would have on your precious friendship. Crossing the line could only bring disappointment for both of you and change your friendship forever. Whenever you feel yourself falling, ask yourself these questions: Would he be a suitable match for me? Is there a future for us? Am I attracted to my best friend sexually? What are my real reasons? Am I afraid to be alone? Am I willing to risk losing the friendship? Know that when you risk falling for a friend, you risk not just getting your heart broken but also ruining one of your most cherished friendships when things don't work out.

5. Choose to love him as your best friend. Or as a brother, if you must. Know that you would be willing to do anything for him, care for him, and love him like a true brother, even if hes not family. And be comforted that he would do the same for you. But decide not to throw romantic and sexual thoughts into the equation. Its a decision, not merely an emotion. Appreciate that rare solid friendship you have formed with him and keep yourself from losing it just because of selfish, uncontrolled feelings.

be a good friend, bro!! and friendship more eternal than love ;))

[thanks for Anna Lorraine Miranda for her " How Not To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend"]

KolonG DARI SLIMO CINTA UNTUK SEMUA

Semua orang pasti pernah merasakan cinta.. Baik cinta dari orang tua, sahabat.. kekasih dan akhirnya pasangan hidupnya

Buat temanku yg sedang jatuh cinta.. :) nikmatilah.. karena cinta itu sangat indah, saat bisa menggabungkan kata AKU dan KAMU menjadi KITA, saat suka dan duka bisa berbagi dan saling menjaga, Semoga kalian selalu berbahagia..

Buat temanku yg sedang terluka karena cinta, Hidup itu bagaikan roda yang terus berputar, satu saat akan berada di bawah dan hidup terasa begitu sulit, tetapi keadaan itu tidak untuk selamanya, bersabarlah dan berdoalah karena cinta yang lain akan datang dan menghampirimu, karena cerita2 indah lainnya sudah menunggu untuk menemuimu, nantikan kejutan cinta lainnya yg lebih menggairahkan hidupmu..

Buat temanku yang tidak percaya akan cinta, Buka hatimu dan jangan menutup mata akan keindahan yang ada di dunia, kadang berdua lebih mengasyikkan daripada sendiri, berbagi lebih membahagiakan daripada memendam berat hidup sendiri, dan percayalah bahwa cinta yg didasari pengertian, menghargai dan saling mengisi kekurangan masing2 dapat membuat hidupmu menjadi lebih bahagia..

Buat temanku yang mendambakan cinta.. :) bersabarlah.. karena cinta yang indah tidak terjadi dalam sekejap, Tuhan sedang mempersiapkan segala yang terbaik bagimu, yakinlah ada malaikat di luar sana sedang membuka peta cintanya dan mencari keberadaanmu sekarang, bersiaplah untuk bertemu dengan pasanganmu itu, pasti, segera semangat!!! ;)

With Love.. -SUPER SLIMO- mengucapkan "Happy Valentine Day" for all of you guys.. :)

KolonG "How to Get Your Ex BF apology"

Are you wondering how to get your ex-bf forgive you after you dumbed him?

sumtime we made some mistake when we found sumone new and work with him by dumbed our boy. By time passed by we just realize that having A heart's war with our ex-bf is not a good way to find our peace life. Well, we knew it is certainly possible to get your forgiveness but at least we have to say SORRY and ask any possible to be his friend again and erase all bad memories between. However, there are certain things that you should take note.

First, why are you seeking forgiveness? What have you done? did he hurt him much that time, did you said the worse words to make him impossible to forgive? You have to understand that the bigger the mistake, the longer the whole process take. You have to be prepared that it is going to take you a very long time to gain your ex's forgiveness.

If you think about it, it is common sense. Imagine someone being dumbed by his lover because there's someone new among them, I believe his love will angry and hate him, If you apologize on the spot that time, what do you think will happen? Do you think if he forgive you, his forgiveness will be taken seriously? Well, obviously not!

Apology can actually be a very powerful tool to help you gain forgiveness. However, you have to use it the right way. If you use it wrongly, an apology will not work. In fact, it will even make the situation worse.

One of the keys to apology is the timing. As mentioned above, apologizing immediately after broke is not going to work. You need to wait for your ex to calm down first before you attempt to apologize to him. Many people make the mistakes of trying to apologize too soon. Another mistake that you should take note of is that you should never try to defend yourself during the apology.

TIPS: A lot of people make this mistake by saying, 'I am sorry, but...' Never use the word 'BUT' in your apology. When you use this word, you are giving the impression that you are trying to defend yourself.

Get Ex Back to be your friend? It is difficult to explain but if you found the good time to apologize just do it. you probably knew that he may won't meet you or just under estimate your act but keep trying to be nice to him, cause there's always a forgiveness if you know how to explain and show your serious apology. But if he can't accept your apology, maybe he still need more time to forgive you, keep trying, show him that you have a good mission to him [want to be his good friend again]. ;))

KolonG "confuse to buy your boyfriend A GIFT"

It always happen when your boy friend wanna celebrate his birthday, when he's on success of his carrier, or just facing the day of your celebrating moment, we always confuse to think what a best gift to him, it happen to me too, but thanks to factoidz by giving me some idea about "gift" than proudly here to share with you, ;)

what to get the man who has everything (meaning you). Boys, don’t despair, men are a lot simpler than you think or perhaps not a simple as SOME of you think.
For a man in love, one of the best gifts is the joy of giving. Honestly, I’m not joking. Truly enjoy the gifts you receive or drop hints as to what you would really like, this will make the process a lot less stressful for your man and cause him to enjoy what you give him even more. That being said, there are a few tips a gay man should follow. Most men, at least not the childish type, don’t want expensive gifts. We will drop light hints throughout the year as to what we want, pay close attention when we are at the store. Find things that will be used more than stuffed away in a closet. If you can get a man something he will use year round AND something he likes, you’re a gift giving goddess.

If you are looking for a less practical gift, be romantic. Men like romance, we just hide it better. Take your man to your favorite romantic spot, if he insists to pay let him. Share a passionate night under the stars at a restaurant or the park, outdoors is best as long as he doesn’t have bad allergies. Share a evening of romance.

Sometimes cooking a favorite dish is good enough, don’t go all out and over do it. Sometimes less means more. Finally, if you happened to get the pervy type, try his favorite sexual position, something rare and special for him.

Good luck guys, hope this helps!! ;))

KolonG "how to be a good BF"

well, lot of email to me asking how to be a good BF and it was confusing me cause every man has their opinion about that. some friends of me said..."You are fortunate if you have a boyfriend who loves you too much. If you don’t want to lose him, you shouldn’t be just a boyfriend, but you should be a good boyfriend". thanks for "ST.BOTANICA" by giving me this idea to write ;)

many step to be a good bf for your boy, even in this gay world a few good men in loyal and giving a true love but we should think about this;

first of all Always be true to him. Boys hate boys who are liars. Also be honest. Honesty is one of the biggest things which will keep him closer to you always. If you hide anything from your boyfriend or tell him lie about something you will always be unsafe. Any day if he discovers the truth, he will be hurt and it may cause break up. Boys love truthful persons.

Praising your boyfriend’s beauty is one of the best ways to be a good boyfriend. Just think, why did you get attracted towards him? You might have found him too beautiful in your eyes or too many good qualities in him. So why not praise her qualities and make him feel proud of him. Boys spend a lot of time and money to look fancy and macho in his style for you. When you meet him, praise his handsome, his eyes, his dresses etc. This will make him feel that the time he spent in making himself look cool worked.

Love what he loves. If he loves his family, his brother or his teacher, you too should show him that you love and respect them. Even if you discover any bad quality in his family members, don’t tell him. If you discover that his father drinks and quarrels with his colleagues, do not tell him. He must know his father and his qualities better than you.

Boys love gifts. So gift your boyfriend with some items frequently. It will strengthen your relationship. It is not necessary to buy expensive gifts. You can gift him even a single t-shirt. Remember, he will be happy to know that you care for him; he would not mind the cost of the gift to you back. Above all, don’t ever let him feel that you are behind some other boy.

well, be nice and be good bf then, enjoy your happy time with him!! ;))