KolonG Your boy friend now is a diamond

A good friend just called me this morning, and for the umpteenth time he broke up within his BF again, he told me that he was really tired in the searching for the good heart.

I bit him share; In love we can indeed occur in a matter of seconds, lot of people out there are more than our spouses, but the wise man said we have to learn to say thanks for what we have been gotten, because humans will never feel satisfied and always compare with others. Grateful to your partner even though he was not too handsome as what you've dream of, though he's not too sexy like your boyfriend's pal, not too rich as your partner before, or not even as perfect as you'd expect, but make sure at least now he's just the only one who love you with sincere.

Never take someone else for granted, hold someone close to your heart now, cause you may wake up one day and realize That you've lost a diamond while you were the resource persons too busy collecting stones .. :)

SLIMO

KolonG "tired to love, am I wrong?"

Dear Slimo,

I could go through a bucket load of depression being with someone, question everything about the relationship and still be hard pushed to leave, and if I left chances are I would end up coming back anyway.
I'm wasting too much emotional energy on all of this past, am I wrong if I'm tired to love someone now?
[Fernando]

Dear Fernando,
It's not wrong if you have to take a pause to not love someone for a while, It happen to me this recently, I've had very good love but end up with mistreatment,
It's not worth being upset over the past, don't let the failed relationships ruin you. There is grieving time, of course, but after that point - how does it help you get to where you want to be in life to continually mull it over and try to figure out where it went wrong? The relationship has ended. You are better off not getting back with any of your ex, unless they have changed - if they haven't, the relationship would go the exact same way, eventually. I find it helpful to consider my emotions as logically as possible - how does this emotion help me? Does it put me on the path to where I want to be in life? Sometimes it's just impossible, but when you find yourself upset over something weeks and months later, it's easier.

Remember, I don't at all mean to sound disparaging on this, I get what you're saying entirely, and I feel like I can relate because it sounds like me when I was around your age. What happened with me, and what happened with most people I know, my advise; be stronger as a person, show to the world that you'll away look fine, and be potentially more desirable, if that's what you're going for.
Look ahead, not backward. You'll harden, you'll develop new "wants" and probably have a better perspective on how to achieve them, you'll be better for the experience even if the end result is not what's ideal for you at this very moment.

Best of luck, Fernando!! ;)

KolonG How to Be Strong After a Breakup

thanks for VC, Dusk And Sondra C for this advise, and here I wanna share their mind through my blog ;)

Dear Slimo,
When everything is wrong and you just want to cry all night, that's when you know you need to get over your ex. Everyone experiences heartbreaks, but being strong about it is another thing. Don't let your ex see you weak.

1. Never ever run back to Him or call Him all the time.
You can just never let go of that special guy that taught you how to love. When you guys break up, then it happens for a reason. Don't keep calling him and talking to them like nothing happened or try to make them love you again. It's not going to work out. It'll just make you seem weak and clingy.

2. Forgive and forget.
Let things go and remind cool. Don't let your ex see you miserable without him, it'll just give him the satisfaction and an ego boost.

3. It's okay to cry at night.
For the first few weeks, it's going to be a long and lonely journey. So it's OK to cry. Cry your heart out for the matter of fact. You are going to stop crying in the end because you'll get sick of it and realize that it's a temporary phase. Listen to sad love songs. It'll make you feel better and you'll realize that you can relate to him even more after a breakup. Get it all out and then deal with it.

4. Remain Positive.
Just because he broke up with you or doesn't want you back doesn't mean that you're "worthless". There are plenty of other people who want you and would be willing to treat you even better than your ex. keep smile and laugh. surround yourslf with friends and people who care. Not only will you feel better, your ex will notice how happy you are and maybe regret rejecting you.

5. Lift your head up high and move on. Don't let one relationship drag you down even though it was the best one you ever had. There will be plenty more and it's his loss. You are too good for them anyway. Tell yourself that. Tell yourself that you need someone who will treat you right. Just be strong and forget about your boyfriend.

6. Don't try to fling or have special relationships with your ex. It never ends up right when you just go back into that cycle. Yes, "that" cycle. Where you guys break up then make up then act all cute and happy but in the end, you'll just be heartbroken and cry. Yes ... that cycle. Relationships end for many reasons, so just forget about trying to "work things out", it'll never ever work out.
7. Consult a friend if you feel lame or played. When your ex plays around with your heart when he knows that you still want him, that's when you definitely know that he is not for you. It's OK to feel this way, completely normal. Don't hold your feelings in, just share to friend. Let them comfort you and let yourself vent your feelings. You'll definitely feel better.

8. Shop, Exercise and socialize. It'll make you feel better to buy new outfits so you can look more attractive, more great looking, and show to the world your inner. Not only will it boost your confidence, it will also boost your self-esteem. Looking good will make you feel good. Exercise is also a good way to vent your frustration and pain. Socializing with others would keep you distracted from your ex, bolster your self-esteem, and help you get over your ex. Go clubbing and have party much if you feel it be your good way. When you are occupied with other people, you'll think, "Hey! Being single isn't bad. I get to make new friends and have more time to myself". feel Flirt and mingle!!! ;))

KolonG SINGLE AND HAPPY ;))

Living alone doesn't have to mean being lonely; not if you like the person you live with. Some people actually choose to live alone; they prefer it to any other situation. Then there are those who live alone by necessity; they have no other choice.

“Unfortunately, society puts so much pressure on singles, to be in relationships that people forget that they have to be happy with themselves in order to be happy with someone else. That applies to friendships as well as intimate relationships.”

It is understandable that you may feel lonely and disconnected when you are on your own, but you must really master the art of being alone and happy before you will be able to be in a happy relationship. The best way you can jump start this realization would be to find a life purpose/passion. Many singles are waiting for a relationship to infuse their life with passion and purpose, not realizing that having a loving partner is not a substitute for a meaningful life. You must find a purpose for waking up in the morning, have a vision of your place in the world and what contribution you want to leave. Be powered by your passion, by taking action.
Being single is a choice. well, happiness is a state of mind. If you're not happy with yourself, in relationship or single, won't make a difference. There are however several things about being single and happy at the same time, that are advantageous. Being single and happy means that you can have a fella over to dinner, have fun to close with anyone else at the end of the evening, free to love all your pals.

best pal said "I am happy being single again. The one thing that I hated dealing with when it was over between my boyfriend and I was the loneliness. I didn't like the drama and I love going out to clubs and parties. I have lot friends to go out with and party with. I love going to places that I never been before. "

Being Single and happy depend on your life, You must be as enthusiastic in discovering yourself as you were in discovering other people. The more you like YOU, the happier you will be living even alone. The cliche "If it not broke don't fix it," Make yourself into someone interesting, someone you'll enjoy living with. If you're unhappy living alone, you've no one to blame but yourself. ;))

KolonG "Learn from the lost love"

I was thinking how to bring myself to a commitment, I just broke up with my boy but I thank for him for make me more strong in life,

1. I Learned from the past to advised that we can Rewarding Relationship What we are in Current live,

Life is full of ups and downs. The only reason, why when we are experiencing our feelings tide of life so extraordinary is because of the low tide situation that we experienced such a devastating our hearts.
Maybe we will not recognize what it feels like to have the overwhelming feeling we never had a bad one. The same principle applies in a relationship. They are never wrong in finding Mr. / Miss Right will be a better person. The next moment, when we try to go through difficult relationships we experience because the relationship is not going well, remember what an incredible feeling later on when we finally found someone who really fit with us.

2. I Know How Diverse Facing Problems Of A Relationship,

Maybe we see failure as a disgrace to dark relationship in career relationship, think again. Every relationship will give us more experience to deal with various problems that we can not avoid. But we are more familiar with a variety situations, the more we feel equipped to face any problems in the future relationship.

3. A Mistake To Evade Moving Forward,

Although the emotions we feel dry and crumble, but the end of love will give us many valuable insight into what should be avoided as we fall in love again. We can stop the bad habit, is able to overcome some problems in communication and check out other things that might go wrong and make our relationship never ragged. The more we realize the mistakes of past and may never make us get to the lowest level ones, the less for us to repeat it.

Now I'm not carried away by desire about what we do not get, hopefully the higher one's level of maturity for me to appreciate my next partners, the spirit well, thanks for my ex-BF ;))

KolonG "Love and Cake"

Have you ever confronted by two choices? have you ever hard to choose one in two? or you choose both, or even pick one but by secret you also choose the other without being noticed?

Life is always with a lot of choices, like a man who was never enough to find the best, my story today might be the lesson that the feeling is not always betrayed, that man still has a heart in determining the people who loved, but with the story today, the more I know that only people with big hearts who are able to choose the best in his life, as well as in love ..

Love and the cake turned out to connect, often times we see people are always confused in determining persons to be elected, the person he loves, because he faced not only an option, but two, three, or more, but after all love is always associated with two feelings, to the people who love and be loved, no matter what we should do is the one who prefers the best and are committed to that feeling. like when we go to a patisserie, a lot of cakes choices and are very seductive in front of us, but somehow we have to choose the best one, because when we choose two, and store the other cake just to make it look that we choose only one, time will lead and could show that the only ex-cake garbage through the stench, until eventually the reality will open that we were not the only cake ever he chooses, that there was another cake behind him that he also keep and enjoy, and the fact it will be very painful , because we assume that he is the best man who have chosen us as the only cake of his best,

man will never enough before he learn to say "enough" to what he ever got, though it was his best,

And so in love, like choosing a cake, choose the best one, make sure that it is the best option, most delicious and especially from other pastries, cause You can not "eat" the cake and "keep" it too , love is about choice, eat it or keep it ";)

to all of friends who are confused to choose now, be fair, choose the best one, be an adult to be honest, and enjoy the beauty of commitment by your choice, because when you cheat and save the others, time will open the reality, and you will lose both the best, and remember that feeling of injured people can change the world and show you that you will regret throwing the best one, congratulations for your vote! ;))

By-SLIMO-;))

KolonG "He's gay or straight?"

This is particularly big problem for the gay when you dont't know you loves a gay boy or the straight one, cause when you knew that he's straight, it seemed like you living in a dream world, feel love flying and blooming inside your heart but it hard to wake up to the real life. In gay life we lot of trapped love to a straight dudes. Feel like a fool when you do care of him, loving him that much, expecting his attention, text you at your mobile just wondering he write romance quote and its so hurt to figure it out that you’re not the one he want, badly he has a woman beside. Than you blame your self why you knew him, met him and created that feel. You can’t blame him in here, but look at you, you might take the wrong step arrange your feeling when you decided to love him. Don’t worry, sometime love just crush easier when we realize that we meet some one who really match, when you feeling lonely and he’s the only one who give you a care. Than without confirmation of both hearts you’re in love with him.
It was long time ago when I just broke up with my bf and knowing that I met some Mr. Nice man, he seemed gentle and did care of me. He even knew my favorite foods, companied me to go to the bar and club, so nice treat me like a special person for his life. But one day when I said that I love him he said he’s straight and just want have good friendship with me

Knowing this case I will share my experience how to figure it out about him. See the test to recognize him; is he a gay boy or a straight one?

1.Gay boys love to be perfect and love trend, Gay and metro sexual almost same indeed, they love fashion, hang out, shopping, go to the body treatment and love come to the societies. But most of gay men sometimes to much in trend, try to look at his style, his accessories, and look his performance. Gay man pouring more perfume to his body, take care of his skin brightly than a straight man, need more time to decide what color of his clothes to day and how many hours his preparation just want to go to the event. A straight men need plenty of time to care of it. So its your time to focus is he gay or not by look of his performance

2.Gay boys love gym and doing sport, meanwhile a straight one, but the value of gym time are totally deferent, straight man gym just for their health care, can be once or twice a week, but gay men must be very often, they want look more sexy, six-pack cause it really needed in their social life. Otherwise they may spend everyday in gym or sauna, cause they also searching to the new boys in there.

3.Gay prefer chat about boys than girls, jump him to the private chat, asking bout what he like and what type of girls he love. Even gay men love to pretend and cover his stories bout the girl, they may not specific. A straight men will telling you any secret stories with his girls, you may ask some advice and he will give you full of night bed stories or how he loves his girl much. But if he said he lazy to talk bout his girl and want to know more of your life, it’s a sign he interest with you. Or pretend answer the phone of your lover and wait his response, gay men will silence and hide his knowing. Otherwise make some idea bout he’s think of gay life, create fool story of your pal gay life and see his response, and if he pay attention with your case, you know how to take the next step ;)

4.Gay has lot girls pal than boys, knowing some word that “gay is a girls best pal” is really obvious that he’s gay, gay can understand girl, can be share with company her to the mall and give advice of her look, and women will feel comfort stay close with, cause they know gay don’t love girl ;) so make sure with your survey bout his best friends, search to his blog, his facebook or his real societies, more girls or boys?

5.Eyes testing bring him to the crowded restaurant, look at his eyes move, more response when there’s a group of girls or boys? Another test by asking his opinion of the group boys in the corner, so you can figure it out who is he, gay or not?

6.Single bed sleep, ask him travelling in a same room, or ask him to come to your room after office hours, a straight men will come and sleep with his back in front of your eyes directly when he is tired or need some rest, but gay men playing with his eyes to knowing what you do and what you want to do, pretend to be close eyes and sleep and wait his act

7.Ask confirmation, its the final step knowing if he's gay or not by asking him directly if he's gay or straight.

Well..make some analyst first before you fall in love with some boy, make sure he’s a gay or straight, cause the bad one when we’re totally in love with some boy and then knowing that he’s a straight one, oh…that’s so hurt, baby!! ;(

KolonG "How not to fall in love with your best friend?"

Most of time we always spend so much time with our best friend together, having lunch, gym, traveling and stay in one room, clubbing and so, you can talk about anything, and you know each others secrets. most of days You buy each other things, just because you know you'll like that. You're always there for each other, and are in fact each others default dates to functions when you couldn't get anyone else. Sooner or later, at least one of you would fall in love with the other.

When you knew it, its extremely difficult, especially when you really have so much fun together and admit it he's attractive. But it is possible to not ever be romantically involved with your best friend. It is usually advisable to keep things that way, too. Here are a few tips to help prevent you from crossing the line;

1. Keep in mind that your best friend will always be your best friend. The mind over matter rule might still work for you, Forbid yourself from entertaining thoughts of your best friend being the man you've been waiting for, because you will eventually convince yourself that he is even if he probably is not. Whenever your mind wanders dangerously close to that line, give yourself a good, firm shake. set your mind that all of his care is about giving care to his best friend too.

2. Decide not to be attracted. In fact, try to feel embarrassed about even considering it. Of course you became friends because you saw a lot of great qualities in each other that made you click, that's why its inevitable to feel attracted to each other. But to avoid falling for his great qualities, humorously think of his worst traits especially the really weird and gross ones.

3. Avoid situations where you are left alone with each other, as this allows a breeding place for passion. It will happen when you need more time to share your problem, both of you guys prefer go sumwhere silence, bring cans of beer and drunk and talk between heart to heart, it will attract to hug each other, this psychical touch may built some strange feeling, and you will flying to his arm of warm, it's very dangerous...

4. Know all the negative consequences falling in love would have on your precious friendship. Crossing the line could only bring disappointment for both of you and change your friendship forever. Whenever you feel yourself falling, ask yourself these questions: Would he be a suitable match for me? Is there a future for us? Am I attracted to my best friend sexually? What are my real reasons? Am I afraid to be alone? Am I willing to risk losing the friendship? Know that when you risk falling for a friend, you risk not just getting your heart broken but also ruining one of your most cherished friendships when things don't work out.

5. Choose to love him as your best friend. Or as a brother, if you must. Know that you would be willing to do anything for him, care for him, and love him like a true brother, even if hes not family. And be comforted that he would do the same for you. But decide not to throw romantic and sexual thoughts into the equation. Its a decision, not merely an emotion. Appreciate that rare solid friendship you have formed with him and keep yourself from losing it just because of selfish, uncontrolled feelings.

be a good friend, bro!! and friendship more eternal than love ;))

[thanks for Anna Lorraine Miranda for her " How Not To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend"]

KolonG DARI SLIMO CINTA UNTUK SEMUA

Semua orang pasti pernah merasakan cinta.. Baik cinta dari orang tua, sahabat.. kekasih dan akhirnya pasangan hidupnya

Buat temanku yg sedang jatuh cinta.. :) nikmatilah.. karena cinta itu sangat indah, saat bisa menggabungkan kata AKU dan KAMU menjadi KITA, saat suka dan duka bisa berbagi dan saling menjaga, Semoga kalian selalu berbahagia..

Buat temanku yg sedang terluka karena cinta, Hidup itu bagaikan roda yang terus berputar, satu saat akan berada di bawah dan hidup terasa begitu sulit, tetapi keadaan itu tidak untuk selamanya, bersabarlah dan berdoalah karena cinta yang lain akan datang dan menghampirimu, karena cerita2 indah lainnya sudah menunggu untuk menemuimu, nantikan kejutan cinta lainnya yg lebih menggairahkan hidupmu..

Buat temanku yang tidak percaya akan cinta, Buka hatimu dan jangan menutup mata akan keindahan yang ada di dunia, kadang berdua lebih mengasyikkan daripada sendiri, berbagi lebih membahagiakan daripada memendam berat hidup sendiri, dan percayalah bahwa cinta yg didasari pengertian, menghargai dan saling mengisi kekurangan masing2 dapat membuat hidupmu menjadi lebih bahagia..

Buat temanku yang mendambakan cinta.. :) bersabarlah.. karena cinta yang indah tidak terjadi dalam sekejap, Tuhan sedang mempersiapkan segala yang terbaik bagimu, yakinlah ada malaikat di luar sana sedang membuka peta cintanya dan mencari keberadaanmu sekarang, bersiaplah untuk bertemu dengan pasanganmu itu, pasti, segera semangat!!! ;)

With Love.. -SUPER SLIMO- mengucapkan "Happy Valentine Day" for all of you guys.. :)