KolonG "How to Get a Man to Marry You"

Finding a guy is one thing, but keeping him around is another. Both are important steps. But what are some of the secrets of people who find men willing to commit? This is not an all-encompassing guide, but it may be a start in helping you develop deeper relationships.

This is some step to make man marry you;

1. Love yourself. Think, would you marry you? If you're not happy with who you are then don't expect others will be. Analyze yourself and change what you don't like. Positive self-esteem is key.
2. Communicate. From the start of the relationship and all through the marriage, the key to keeping the relationship together is communication. Tell him what you feel, both positive and negative.
3. Be natural. For all the glamour advertisements out there, the fake boobs, hair dyes, and all the rest, a man really appreciates something that is genuine. Be natural and don't pose. You want him to get to know the real you because it is the real you he's going to have to live with when you're married.
4. Be sexy. While sexuality isn't the only thing in a relationship, it is important. Show that you're interested in him romantically. Try not to be too prudish and withdrawn. Allow that aspect of the relationship to be free, fun, and lively. Men who want to marry aren't looking for just a roommate.
5. Know your role. An important part of any relationship is making both partners aware that they have a crucial and indispensable role to play. Make sure that you and him have a similar view of the relationship. If you're looking for someone to have kids with and he's looking for a casual relationship, it's not going to work out.
6. Be emotionally grounded. Life with you should not be a roller coaster ride. Men generally like men who are stable and vice versa. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not impossible. If you find yourself referred to as a "drama queen" in more than one instance, seek help and guidance in relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
7. Men are often slower to commit because they are very careful about getting to know his partner before they commit. They date first before becoming a boyfriend, and they stay a boyfriend first before getting engaged. This is often hard for us, but there is a lesson to be learned from it. They make sure that they feel compatible on all levels. This process must happen at its own pace. Pressuring a man to make a decision before he feels he knows you will inevitably lead him to be uncertain. Don't talk about marriage until either he brings it up or it's been about a year.
8. Keep dating fun, as it should be. If dating goes well, and your interactions are positive, he'll want you to be his boyfriend. If he builds experience with you and sees you as a person he wants to be with forever, he will get more serious about his future and work, start considering more distant goals such as buying a home, and begin to discuss the future more and more. Only once he has made a decision about you and feels prepared and mature enough to propose will he do so.
9. Show confidence. Be sure of yourself, and ready to tackle whatever is before you. Many men love confident men. How can a man not feel privileged when he earns the esteem of a man who values herself so highly?
10. Show endearment with class. A special glance, a scratch on the back, or a soft kiss is nice, but nothing "clingy" or inappropriate.
11. Appreciate a man's strengths. Also, tell him so, even if he's already prideful. Then, support him when he is at his best, and avoid nagging or berating him when he is at his worst.
12. Be fun. This sounds basic, but it's a critical factor in any relationship. Have a sense of humor. Don’t be uptight or negative.
13. Overflow with joy. men who are glad to be alive and are enjoying every minute of it may be irrepressibly attractive to men.
14. Glow. If the warmth of your heart is written all over your face, and your feelings for your guy show in the sparkle in your eyes, you will melt him. This is what removes all doubt--it's the important "silver bullet".
15. Practice humility. A humble person is not someone who downplays herself; it is a person who controls her ego and shows a genuine interest in others.
16. Date. It may not be obvious, but you actually have to go out on dates with a man and commit to a relationship before he will propose. The term "date" in modern culture is vague and sometimes redefined as something more than it is. Simply converse with a man and get to know more about each others' lives.
17. Don't assume. Some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to re-evaluate the direction of your relationship.
18. Remember that romance runs both ways. If you want to be respected and treated as an equal, do the same for him. Be romantic. Make him want to be in this relationship. Don't be a cheapskate. Men often enjoy romance too; pretending otherwise will only drive him away.
19. Remember that some men are perfectly willing to date men they really like but don't see as "marriage material." If, after six months to a year, you still haven't heard him refer to his future plans for marriage or family (with or without you), you may need to ask, "What qualities do you look for in someone you see yourself committing to?" If he mentions qualities he's complimented you on, take it as a good sign. If his compliments are largely related to sex, it probably is not.
20. If you feel the need to have a serious talk, reconsider the approach. Instead of coming at him with a serious tone (which will bring up his innate fear of pressure for commitment), be upbeat and positive. "I really love spending time with you. I really feel happy around you. But I just want to double check and see if we're on the same page. While I know it is too soon for us to worry about it, I do want to get married in the future and want to make sure I'm dating someone who has the same values as me. As we get to know each other better and better, are you beginning to see me as someone you could possibly see that happening with?"
21. Convey unconditional love. A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and appreciation for one another. Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we experience.

for My Scott, thanks already propose me, i'll become the great man for your life..

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KolonG "99 steps to make your man become THE MOST HAPPY MAN IN THE WORLD"

Most times a man forgets that he has a role to play in the relationship. He thinks he is the only one who is good to be loved and cared for, he thinks his feelings are more important than the man’s own. There are easy guide in loving your man and it is very important you learn about them. Do you know what your man desire most from you? As I have said in my previous posts, true love relationship is a two way communication; meaning that two people are involved and should be cared for each other. So, as a good man, this is how you show love to your man;

See your man as your baby and call him one if you don’t mind;

This will definitely help you out. Do you know that men in general love babies? It is because; they want taking care softly and have that passion for babies. If you see your man as your baby, it will make you find it easy loving him and caring for him. One good way to achieve this is by calling him ‘my baby’ as your relationship pet name.

Men also love it when they are cared for. 

Show care to your man, don’t be selfish by thinking he is the only one who is meant to care for you. A gentleman may usually say that the man walked up to him so, the man should strife harder to keep his man. Please, do not have this perception about true love relationship as a gentleman. If you don’t play your card very well, someone else will!!

Be a very humble man; men love humble guya. As a lay, do not make him see you as a competition but as a partner. You alone can make this possible. If he sees you as a competition or as a potential competition, he will definitely dumb you some day.

Another action to treat your man good by following step;

1. TEXT HIM A LOVE MESSAGE Send him a romantic text message on his cell. Make sure it's sweet but spicy!
2. DO ONE OF HIS CHORES FOR HIM Pick a chore that he dreads, such as mowing the lawn, and do it for him. Watch him as he sighs with relief.
3. START A HOBBY TOGETHER Sharing a hobby together such as horse back riding, completing a home improvement project, or selling on eBay can help keep you close.
4. PLAY A GAME TOGETHER Have fun doing things together such as playing board games, riding bumper boats, or playing miniature golf. Just remember, if he should get the best of you, don't tackle him unless you're laughing!
5. SHOW APPRECIATION When your MAN works hard, or does something for you, let him know you appreciate him.
6. MAKE YOUR HOME HIS REFUGE Let your home be a haven were your MAN can retreat from the stresses of life. Do your best to make it a pleasant environment.
7. LAUGH AT HIS ANTICS Don't let the little things that your MAN does get on your nerves. If you think about it, some of these things may have been what attracted you to him! He just wouldn't be the same if he didn't do these things.
8. PRAY FOR HIM Ask God to give him that extra boost to make everything OK. Let your MAN hear you pray too. This will let him know that when you can't make it right, you'll ask someone who can.
9. CHECK BEFORE THROWING THINGS AWAY If your MAN has some things that seem useless to you, don't trash them until you've made sure he doesn't need them.
10. CHECK BEFORE REARRANGING Ask your MAN if it's OK before you move or straighten things on his desk or work area. If he has things where it's easy to find, it might make it chaotic if it's moved.
11. TAKE A WALK OR A HIKE TOGETHER Let nature set the mood for romance! Talk, listen, and hold hands.
12. DON'T EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND If there is something you want your MAN to know about you, tell him. Don't expect him to just know what you're thinking or what you need.
13. LAUGH TOGETHER Forget your adults for awhile, and just act silly together. Also, if something should go awry, try to find some humor in it somewhere. This will also reduce the stress of the situation.
14. RESIST THE URGE TO SNOOP Don't sneak around and check up on your MAN, if you want to know something, ask him to his face.
15. GIVE HIM A ROMANTIC CARD Don't wait for a special occasion to give him a card. Find the most romantic card you can find and leave it in his car. Don't forget to add your own personal message! Maybe you'll even make him nervous, wondering if he forgot an anniversary!
16. PACK HIS FAVORITE TREAT Buy his favorite candy bar or other treat, and pack it in his lunch with a love note.
17. TAKE A BUBBLE BATH TOGETHER This is self-explanatory.
18. E-MAIL HIM AN INVITATION FOR ROMANCE Invite him on a rendezvous with you! Build his anticipation, then tell him to RSVP!
19. TAKE HIM TO TEST DRIVE HIS DREAM CAR Drive him to a car lot some Saturday, and let him test drive the car of his dreams - even though you probably won't buy it.
20. LET HIM BUY THAT TOY Permit him to buy that toy he's been wanting so badly. Better yet, put some of your own things off, save the money and buy it for him yourself!
21. TALK ABOUT THE FUTURE The future isn't as far away as it seems sometimes. Talk about where you'd like to be when you're married 50 years, and work on making those dreams happen.
22. GIVE HIM THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT Don't jump to conclusions if your MAN has said or done something questionable. Give him the chance to explain before you pass judgement.
23. LET HIM BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE Although this is growing increasingly unpopular, it does still work. Just because your MAN is in charge of the household doesn't mean that you can't share your opinions, it just means he's captain of the team.
24. SAY, "I'M SORRY" Although you may not want to admit it, there will be times when you're in the wrong. Maybe you've said something hurtful or done something insensitive. Never have too much pride to tell him you're sorry.
25. KEEP YOUR PROMISES If you told your MAN you'd do something, make sure that you follow through.
26. RUB HIS FEET Steer him to the recliner and pull off his shoes. Rub his feet for at least 20 minutes. It has been told that this may even improve his health!
27. MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A LOVER'S PARADISE Turn your ordinary bedroom into any lover's dream without a lot of expense. Remove clutter and anything that doesn't belong, and replace it with scented candles and fresh flowers. Hang pretty curtains and find some comfy bedding. Place mirrors to reflect candlelight, and misting fountains for a romantic effect.
28. WRITE A NOTE ON THE STEAMED-UP BATHROOM MIRROR While your MAN is showering, sneak in and write, "I love you" on the steamed-up bathroom mirror. This will steam him up as well, especially if you seal it with your lip prints!
29. PUT LOVE IN HIS SUDS I'm talking about a bar of soap! Scratch "I love you" into his soap so he'll find it the next time he showers. (You may not want to seal this note with your lip prints, though).
30. GIVE HIM A MASSAGE Go buy some sweet smelling oils and turn your bedroom into a spa! Give your MAN a full body massage and work out those aching muscles.
31. PLAY ROMANTIC MUSIC Keep a good deal of romantic music on hand in your bedroom to help set the mood for romance.
32. PUT A SIGN IN YOUR YARD Place a sign in your yard such as, "THE WORLD'S GREATEST MAN LIVES HERE." Let everyone know how special your MAN is to you.
33. LET BYGONES BE BYGONES If your MAN has done or said something to hurt you, forgive him. Don't keep bringing up the past every time you get into a disagreement, especially if he has shown remorse.
34. BE HONEST Don't hide things from your MAN. Be open and transparent. This will help him trust you more.
35. BRAG ON HIM IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS Men naturally rely on boost in their ego now and then in order to stay confident. Let him hear you tell others about the great things he says and does.
36. CLEAN HIS CAR FOR HIM Surprise him by giving his car a good detailed cleaning. If you don't want to tackle it yourself, have it professionally done.
37. PUT HIS PICTURE IN WALLPAPER Let him know that you still think he's a gorgeous hunk by putting his picture on your computer desktop!
38. BUY A BUMPER STICKER Put a "I Love My MAN" bumper sticker on your car.
39. WORSHIP TOGETHER The couple who prays together, stays together. These will be very tender and special moments shared between the two of you, as well as important.
40. EAT BY CANDLELIGHT Cook his favorite meal and light the candles. Take time to focus on each other, and to look into each others eyes.
41. BE DEVOTED TO HIM One of the greatest gifts that you could ever give your MAN is your true faithfulness. This includes physically, emotionally, and in your thoughts. If you're struggling with temptation, nip it in the bud. Tell him your feelings in a sensitive and loving way. Don't bottle anything up, this is asking for disaster.
42. RUN YOUR FINGERS THROUGH HIS HAIR Or massage his temples if he doesn't have any. Do this while he relaxes. Remember, your touch is important to him.
43. DON'T CONTRADICT HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS This will only embarrass him and cause people to lose respect. This is especially important if you have children.
44. DON'T CRITICIZE HIM IN FRONT OF OTHERS If you feel that your MAN needs a bit of constructive criticism, make sure it's just that - constructive. Don't offer it at all unless it's in a loving way, and in private. Being criticized in front of others lowers self esteem and causes hurt feelings.
45. DEFEND HIM Don't let others disrespect your MAN. Even just a snide comment can hurt. Stick up for him. Don't let someone drive into the ground the most important person in your life.
46. LOVE YOURSELF Many times we  hold back on our MAN because of our own insecurities. Learn to let it go. The things that we're so worried about, usually don't even bother him. What bothers him is when we hold back. Remember, although this may sound strange, you can't really love someone until you love yourself.
47. PAMPER HIM WHEN HE'S SICK Men love to be pampered, especially when they're sick. Make sure everything is comfortable and that he has his "special soup."
48. LOOK HIM IN THE EYES Look your MAN straight in the eyes when he talks to you. Not only will this show that you're interested in what he has to say, but there is something about looking straight into his eyes that will give you butterflies.
49. DISPLAY YOUR TOGETHER PHOTOS Don't tuck away your photos after you've been married awhile, keep them on display. This will be a great reminder of how your love was at the beginning, and how much it has grown.
50. TRUST HIM Too many times wives just sit around and wait for their MEN to do something wrong. Cut him some slack and dare to believe in him.
51. LET HIM WIN It is inevitable, even in healthy marriages, to argue occasionally. What would it really hurt to just let him win? At least you wouldn't be arguing.
52. DON'T GO TO BED MAD Although you've probably heard this one for years, and it may have been your grandmother's first marriage advice to you, it is still true. Going to bed hurt or angry keeps feelings under the surface. When you wake up you don't want to continue the argument, so you you hold in your frustrations and they begin to mount. It's best to talk everything out, and fall asleep in each other's arms.
53. DON'T COMPARE HIM Don't EVER, EVER compare your husband to another man - not even your father. Your husband is his own person and unique in his own ways. Love him for it.
54. GREET HIM AT THE DOOR Don't wait for your MANto say, "Honey, I'm home!" Watch for him, and greet him at the door with a hug and kiss.
55. MEND HIS CLOTHES Buy a sewing kit and repair those sock holes! Break down and sew on his popped-off buttons. This may increase his wardrobe by 20%!
56. TALK IN CODE Pick a code word for something that only the two of you know the meaning for and say it openly in public. You'll have your own inside joke. This will help keep you close.
57. HAVE A WRESTLING MATCH This will get you both laughing, and the closeness will be fun!
58. WAKE HIM UP WITH KISSES Make his whole day go better by waking him up with kisses. He may even keep you there through breakfast!
59. HELP HIM SHAVE This is a fun way to be close and to get you both laughing! (As long as your careful, that is).
60. DEDICATE A SONG TO HIM Did you have a song that was "your song" while you were dating? Call up your local radio station and request it, and have them to dedicate it to your hubby!
61. MAKE HIM A HEART-SHAPED BREAKFAST Make heart-shaped pancakes and heart-shaped toast! Trim little pads of butter into heart shapes as well.
62. DON'T TRY TO BE HIS MOM Remember you are his wife, not his mother. Don't jump him every time he leaves something on the floor or his clothes don't match. It's OK to lovingly remind him, occasionally, but don't nag him.
63. GRAB A KISS WHILE YOU WAIT Kiss your MAN while you're waiting at the stoplight or in the food drive-through. Your wait won't seem near as long, and you may wish it could last a littler longer!
64. FLIRT WITH HIM Just because you've snagged him, don't stop flirting! Wink at him, squeeze his muscles and, WHOOOO, or now that your married, it's not at all out of line to be a little bolder in your purpose.
65. GO ON A LONG DRIVE Go for a long drive and sight see. This is an excellent chance to talk or just be in each other's company. The way gas prices are, you'd almost have to love someone in order to take a long drive. If you don't want to spend the gas, drive to a pretty park or lake and just stop and soak up the scenery while you talk and hold hands.
66. BE HIS BEST FRIEND Let him feel confident that you'll always be there when needs to talk, to laugh, or even cry. Let him be free to be himself at all times and stick with him through the thick and thin.
67. EAT AN ICE CREAM CONE TOGETHER Buy one, large cone, and eat it together at the same time. You may miss the cone, and touch his lips, which will even be sweeter!
68. CHERISH THE SMALL THINGS Concentrate on the way he walks, the way he talks, his smile, or the way he says your name. These are really more important than you think, and no one can do it quite like him.
69. HELP HIM WITH HIS CLOTHES Ask him to let you help with the buttoning or unbuttoning of his clothes as he's dressing or undressing. Caress him gently as you're doing it.
70. KEEP YOURSELF ATTRACTIVE It's easy to fall into a "house PARTNER" mode and just walk around in "cleaning clothes" with your hair twisted into a mess. That's OK while your actually cleaning, but try to be more presentable by the time your husband sees you. Bathe, put on clean clothes and a dab of perfume, and set your hair nice.
71. DON'T PUSH THE BUDGET It is important to learn to live within your means. If you can't afford certain things, don't buy them. Financial stress is very hard on marriages.
72. DON'T COMPLAIN Don't complain about your standard of living or whine about the things that you don't have. If your MAN is doing his best to provide for you, make the best with what you have. If you complain, this makes him feel that he is not a good provider, and this is a great blow to his self esteem.
73. HAVE A PILLOW FIGHT If you must fight with your husband, do it with pillows! Make sure nothing is around that can break, then go into battle! See how long you can go without laughing.
74. LOOK OUT FOR HIS HEALTH Encourage your MAN to get plenty of sleep and exercise. Try to get him to keep medical and dental appointments. Cook healthy meals, and give him nutritional supplements.
75. BUY HIM SOME SEXY BOXERS Buy several pairs of sexy shorts for him! Try silky, colorful, and glow in the dark! Make sure you tell him what a hunk he is while he's wearing them!
76. WEAR THE LINGERIE HE LOVES Some wives love it, some dread it, but just make sure you wear it!
77. DARE TO BE BOLD Too often, wives wait for their MEN to make the first move in the bedroom. Try showing little aggression yourself once in awhile. This will majorly ignite your husband's passion, and the fireworks will begin!
78. DON'T DEPRIVE HIM MAN need sex probably more than wives need hugs and compliments. This is one of the main ways he feels loved. Naturally, there will be sometimes you don't feel like it. But even then, if you just give in, you will before it's over.
79. SPLURGE OCCASIONALLY Although money is a precious commodity to many couples, try to find a way to splurge on something now and then. If you can't afford a trip, find a hotel in or near your hometown with a jacuzzi. If it's still too costly, buy something that you both would enjoy, like a new CD.
80. WORK ON YOUR WAYS It's easy to see and point out flaws in your MAN, but if you're honest, you'll realize that you haven't earned a halo yet. Try to work on your own shortcomings and make yourself a better person.
81. DON'T BE A PESSIMIST Try not to focus too much on the negative. Keep a positive outlook in your marriage.
82. DON'T RUB IT IN IF YOU'RE RIGHT If you've disagreed on something and it turns out that you were right, don't gloat about it and throw it in his face.
83. WASH EACH OTHERS HAIR Jump in the shower and suds up! Watch the water and soap trickle down his face as you wash his hair.
84. EXAMINE HIS FEATURES Take a moment to delight in your MAN's features. The shape of his nose, the set of his eyes. If he catches you staring, wink at him.
85. SEEK HIS ADVICE Ask for your MAN input and advice on anything from children to what he might like to eat. This will let him know he's needed and that his thoughts are important.
86. KEEP TIDY Keep things neat and tidy around the house. Decorate and make things look comfortable and welcoming.
87. TALK ABOUT HIS INTERESTS Bring up a subject that interests him and listen to him talk. Even if the subject doesn't interest you, enjoy watching him as he gets stirred up over the topic.
88. SHOP FOR HIM When you run to the store, see if there is something that you should pick up for him. This could save him a lot of time or keep him from missing a lunch break.
89. KIDNAP HIM Plan a special evening, make all the arrangements, then show up at his job just as he gets off work. Tell him to get in the car and no questions. (Make sure you smile, so he don't get alarmed). Whisk him away for a fun-filled evening, then return to get his car later.
90. RAKE LEAVES TOGETHER Go to your back yard and rake up a pile of leaves. Before you bag them up, play in them together.
91. DON'T LIVE IN A FANTASY WORLD If you can't read a novel without getting depressed over your love life, throw them away. Many books or movies can portray romance in very unrealistic ways. True love and romance is what he is already doing -providing for you and loving you unconditionally.
92. GO CAMPING TOGETHER Find a good camp site and pitch a tent! Buy a two person sleeping bag.
93. DON'T TALK HIS LEG OFF IF HE'S TIRED If your MAN is tired and you need to talk to him, go straight to the bottom line and spare the details.
94. SLOW DANCE IN YOUR BEDROOM Plug in some flashing lights and turn on some romantic music and start slow dancing. (Clothes optional).
95. PLAY HIDE AND GO SEEK IN YOUR NIGHTIES Put on your sexiest negligee and challenge him to a game of hide and go seek. He'll say, "Ready or not, here I come!"
96. MAKE LOVE UNDER THE STARS Find a secluded place and throw out a sleeping bag. Make love by the moonlight as you gaze at the stars.
97. SIT IN FRONT OF A FIRE TOGETHER Snuggle up together in front of the fireplace and make out. If you don't have a fire place, consider buying an electric one, these look realistic, and are still romantic.
98. DOTE ON HIM Pick a night and wait on him hand and foot. Draw him a bath, fix his plate for him, and anything else that you can dream up!
99. JUST SAY IT Make it a point to say the words "I love you" every single day, and mean it. 

NOTE: I dedicate this article for the man than I love, thank you My Scoot, happy to have you as my love forever, -your love SLIMO-

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KolonG "How To Deal With Missing Your Ex Boyfriend"

Have you been missing your ex boyfriend?  Is something keeping you from moving on?  Think about these seven strategies when you miss your ex.

Your hands are shaking and your legs feel limp. You're staring at your phone because you just received a text message from the one person you love more than life itself. It's your ex boyfriend. He's texted you after a period of silence. Maybe he just wanted to say "hi." Perhaps he's taken it a step further and texted that he really misses you. Regardless you can't even form a response at this point because you feel as though all your dreams are coming true. It's hard not to see his text message as the beginning of a new connection for the two of you. It's what you want and his interest, via text, is proof that he wants the very same thing, right?
Before you start planning a romantic dinner as a backdrop for the two of you to proclaim your love for one another, stop. You have to take a step back, try and disengage your heart and handle his text in exactly the right way. You can only do that if you really understand the motivation behind his actions.
This trick below may help how to handle the situation when you miss your ex;

1. The relationship is over
It’s important to accept it.  If you think that there is still a chance of winning your ex boyfriend again, the thoughts of missing him will keep hanging on your head.  Do not make an effort to catch him off guard by texting or phoning him, it only makes the feelings fresh.

2. His stuff needs to go.  
Give him back anything his that are still in your possession and vice versa.  Preserving these things for sentimental reasons will only increase your experience of missing your ex boyfriend.  Each and every thing must go; whether it is his toothbrush or his comb.  These are frequent reminders and you don’t need them.

3. Scribble a page, then toss it to the flames.  
You go on missing your ex boyfriend simply because you try to keep him into your system. Grab a pen and paper; then pour out all your emotions about the whole thing. Once you have poured out all that’s within you, burn the letter up.  Witnessing your words become ashes can be emotionally satisfying.


4. Get in touch with your old friends.  

When one gets too immersed in a relationship, relatives and buddies are often forgotten.  If this has taken place in you, it’s high time to get in touch with them. Aim to rebuild the relationships that you have left behind. You will see that despite the fact that your ex boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore, your family and friends still do.

5. Build new friendships.  
One reason for missing your ex boyfriend is because you have invested a lot of time together. You have time in your hands now even though you still feel the emptiness inside. Use your time for different and exciting stuff.  Return to school and enrich yourself.  Discover new dance steps.  A co-ed softball team can be a great group for you.  Be a part of programs that can assist in the efforts for environmental safety.  You will know that as the time void is being filled with these schedules, the emotional void is being filled as well.

6. Look after a pet.  
A wonderful pet may bring you back to reality; it can be a dog, a cat or something else. This pet can receive your love and attention.  A pet could love you back too. When You miss your ex boyfriend, your pet will be around for you.

7. Get back to the dating scene. 
The entire world has not ended.  Many fish populate the ocean. Getting together with a new guy is very likely after you have mended relationships with family and friends, participated in productive activities and enjoyed the attention of a pet.  Do not let risks of a future relationship worry you.  Merely get out there and have fun.  Very soon, missing your ex boyfriend will be a thing of yesterday.

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KolonG "how to handle One side love of fair"

The horrible and horrifying feeling of falling in love alone. especially when you love a straight guy. loving that boy without the satisfaction of receiving their love in return. this experience happens a lot for PLU (people like us) and is often something you wish never happened.

One day you are innocently living your own life. The next day, you start to notice this cute person or this charming new person in your social circle, or you befriend this person online who seems to be very interesting, or you start to date somebody to whom you are very attracted. At first it is just this admiring attraction you feel, that you are barely aware of yourself. Then, there comes a moment when you realize that you are hopelessly in love with them, and have been so for the past few days / weeks. One-sided love is like that... it has the nasty habit of creeping up on you unexpectedly.

Regardless of how it starts, one-sided love is one of the most painful experiences to go through. The pain is especially great when it is first love. One of the cruel realities of human life is that for most people, first love is indeed one-sided love.

Love happens. It is extremely hard to consciously choose with whom, when and how you fall in love. So, it is almost impossible to avoid one-sided love. Falling in that trap is in itself very bad and very sad. But it is what you do after the fall that's important. Unfortunately, it is far too easy to do things which compound matters more and cause the pain to be far greater than it needs to be.

Undoubtedly, some of what I write below will sound like actions that drive the final nail on the coffin of your love and bury it. So, this advice will be hard to accept for people who still harbor hopes that their love will succeed. But trust me, when I say that these actions are not aimed at burying your love. These actions are primarily focussed on helping you heal and be strong. And if there is even a remote possibility, for your love to succeed, these very actions will draw out that possibility and help it become a reality. As such, all that I write below is totally valid and applicable whether you have given up on your love and want to move on, or you still harbor hopes that it will succeed. In either case, you would do well to heed this advice.


1. When to give up?
You fall in love. You share this fact with your beloved, with much anxiety and fear, hoping upon hope that they feel the same way towards you. But alas, you learn that they do not "like you that way" or "never saw you like that" or "can never have that type of feelings for you". There is immediate dejection, your heart feels heavy as a mountain in your chest. Then what?

You try again. The next hour or next day or next week, you have another talk with the person you love. You hope to convince them with logic or sentiments. You try desperately to make them see the beautiful vision of a future together that fills your eyes, you try to fill their hearts with the overwhelming, tender feelings that fill your own. But without success. Then what?

It can be very tough to know when to recognize that your love will never succeed, that you should give up and move on. It is especially tough to realize the futility of it all when you are young. And even if you realize that it is a failed venture, it can be tough to give up and let go without trying your best, without putting some desperate effort into it, without fighting for that ultimate love you so ardently believe in.

So, at what point should you give up? Unfortunately, there is no right answer to that question. Just as we cannot predict when the heart will fall in love, we cannot predict when the heart will be ready to give up and move on. Worse, we cannot predict the heart of the other person - who knows, it might turn around and fall for us, if only we remain true to our love for a few more days or weeks. So, I cannot tell you exactly when to give up. A good rule of thumb is to give up as soon as the communication from both sides has been very clear and unambiguous. You have expressed your love clearly and the other person has rejected you unambiguously? Time to move on.


2. Don't try too hard
You have talked 2 or 3 times to the person you love to see if they love you back the same. They don't. Then what to do with them? Nothing. Just let go. Even if you madly, desperately love them, don't try to make them. Keep the mad love in your own heart. Don't drown the other person with your feelings. Don't try too hard.

You can't use logic to convince anybody to love you. You cannot charm them into loving you, against their wishes. You cannot force or make anybody love you, if they don't already feel the love for you. Moreover, convincing somebody to love you with your charm, beauty, money or sex is not the best way to get love. Love cannot be bought like that. The best and most enduring love is the one which rises in the heart on its own, inspired merely by the being of the other person, without needing extra efforts or convincing from anybody. Such love will flow effortlessly and naturally, of its own accord.

Whatever you do, don't try too hard to make somebody love you. I can never stress this enough. By trying too hard, you might actually be killing any small chances there might be for the other person to fall for you. Growing things need lots of room to grow freely and playfully. You can't convince a wild tiger or wolf to come out and play with you by trying too hard and chasing it all over the jungle. The most you can do is regulate your own behavior and hope for it to come to you on its own. Who knows, if you are lucky, things might flow your way. But don't try too hard lest you kill your chances yourself.


3. Walk away and keep away
The other thing you do when your love is not reciprocated is just walk away. Put some distance between the person you love and yourself. In fact, if you know for sure that they will never love you back, it is best if you don't run into them or communicate with them at all. At least temporarily. Perhaps later, when your heart has let go and healed, there may be a chance to resume some form of acquaintanceship or friendship. But when your love for them is still burning bright, when the wound of rejection is still fresh, when your heart is still hurting, any type of regular and/or close contact should be avoided.

Some people fear that by keeping away from the person they love, they may be killing what little chance they may have with them. The opposite is true. When you are away, it gives the other person a chance to realize what they are missing by not having you around. If they realize that and truly want you, they will come seeking you on their own. If they don't realize anything of the sort, it means they didn't notice you or value you all that much to begin with. So, you are better off being away from them.

4. Don't do stuff together
In a way, this point is same as the previous point about keeping away from the object of your love. But this is important enough that I am spelling it out explicitly. Before you fell for that person, the two of you might have been in a relationship where you did stuff together. You might have been buddies, colleagues, or part of some hobby/special interest group. But now that you have expressed your romantic interest and have been rebuffed, it is better that you avoid such combined activities.

This may require you to go through some inconvenient changes in your own life. Change society? Change departments at work? Stop hanging out at the same social haunts or events? Delete them from your online contact lists, phone address book, etc.? Even change the gang of friends whom you meet regularly? The idea is to keep interaction / contacts with the person you fell for at a bare minimum or none.

This advice is most important if you were doing 'couple stuff' before one of you fell in love seriously. By couple stuff, I mean things like casual dating, going out for movies or dinner as a twosome, or even a friends-with-benefits / casual sex type of relationships. If you were doing such things, and one of you fell in love seriously, where as the other person doesn't want to get serious, put a complete stop to all the 'couple stuff'.

It can be very painful to regularly interact, even as just friends or colleagues, with a person who doesn't reciprocate your ardent love. You are constantly reminded of what you love, desire and want, but can't have. It's a torture for the body, heart and soul. It makes moving on and healing very tough. It comes in the way of getting a proper perspective on things. Don't let yourself go through that torture. End the interactions.


5. Don't stalk or obsess
Being in love means being constantly concerned and interested about everything going on with the person you love. This comes very close to stalking and obsessing. Stalking isn't restricted to just physically following someone around everywhere. Physical following is something you should never do with someone who doesn't reciprocate your love. Remember - walk away and keep away! But suppose circumstances don't allow you to totally avoid interacting with the person towards whom you feel one-sided love. Suppose you are classmates or colleagues, and you are unable to change society or jobs. Then what? If you can't be physically away, at least try not to mentally obsess about the person. I know this is easier said than done. To love someone is to think about that person constantly. But you can certainly avoid obsessive behavior like trying to know everything about them, keeping tabs on what is going on with them, listening to their conversations with others, constantly checking their blogs or social networking pages and updates (Facebook, Orkut, MySpace, etc.), following them online to participate in the discussions and postings they are involved in, etc., etc. These are the types of behavior you can and should avoid. Doing these things won't help you win their love. These things will in fact, push them farther away. And these actions keep you from healing and moving on.


6. Don't try to share and heal together
It's stupid to think that a person who loves and another person who doesn't return that love can share the hurts caused by this same unreturned love, and can heal together. You may genuinely care for each other. You might even have been good friends in the past. But as things stands now with one person wanting something more than the other person is willing to share or give, there is no way for peace and healing to be experienced together. You can certainly heal, but on your own. Or with some other caring friend or lover. Not with the person you love and who can't love you back. Don't even attempt this because the opposite will occur. The constant reminder of unreturned love will hurt you more. It will cause the other person to feel worse also.


7. Don't become weak or ill
Whatever you do, for god's sake don't become weak or fall ill - physically or mentally. It is not worth it at all. Not worth spoiling your health over someone who doesn't return your love. It is not fair to yourself. It is not fair to the other person. It also doesn't make you any more attractive or love-able. In fact, by falling ill, becoming weak or going loco, you are totally destroying any little chance there might have been of things working out for you. When the person wasn't attracted to you or didn't love you when you were healthy and happy, what makes you think that falling ill or going crazy makes you any more attractive and love-able. Just get a good strong grip on yourself and concentrate on living a steady, strong life. It's okay if you have to break-down and cry. Just don't stay broken or stay down. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

PS: Dear "B", I know you love me but, I cant love you of many reasons, but thanks for your beautiful love -Slimo-
[connected: blog.libranlover.net]

KolonG "Cara Onani Yang Baik dan Benar Untuk Pria"

Kebanyakan pria hanya mengetahui sedikit dari potensi erotis dan orgasme sistem genital mereka. Kebanyakan pria melakukan onani atau masturbasi dengan cara mengocok penis dan dilakukan secara sembunyi-sembunyi dan cepat. Melakukan onani dengan cepat dengan harapan bisa segera selesai dan puas adalah cara onani yang salah.

Cara onani seperti itu hanya akan menciptakan pola orgasme yang cepat dan membiasakan sistem syaraf untuk sesegera mungkin orgasme dan ejakulasi.
Teknik onani biasa dilakukan dengan bantuan beberapa stimulasi dari luar seperti dengan melihat gambar cowok bugil atau menonton film porno atau kemungkinan hanya dengan berfantasi seksual melalui pikiran.
Lebih baik apabila membuat diri anda nyaman terlebih dahulu sebelum mengocok penis dan melakukan onani. Waktu yang cukup dan tempat yang privacy, dapat bermanfaat agar tidak ada gangguan saat anda sedang barasik-asik dengan diri anda.
Untuk latihan menahan ejakulasi, biasakan jangan berpikir atau berkhayal erotis untuk membuat penis ereksi, konsentrasilah pada diri anda sendiri dengan mengocok penis anda menggunakan tangan. Nikmati setiap gesekan yang anda rasakan tapi jangan menciptakan stimulasi seksual dari pikiran. Rangsangan fisik saja tanpa pikiran erotis bisa membuat penis anda tegang dan membuat waktu anda beronani semakin lama.
1. Lakukan Dengan Tangan Kering, cobalah onani menggunakan tangan kering alias tidak menggunakan bantuan jelly atau pelumas. Ketika Anda melakukan ini perhatikan:
Perubahan napas Anda:
Apakah menjadi dangkal dan cepat, lebih lambat dan lebih dalam?
Perubahan tubuh Anda:
apakah ada ketegangan di beberapa tempat, dan merasa relaks di tempat lain? Apakah sama setiap kali Anda onani dengan mengocok penis anda pada lain kesempatan?

2. Bagaimana rasanya saat Anda orgasme, dan pasca-orgasme?
Ganti Tangan Untuk Mengocok Penis
Apakah Anda selalu menggunakan tangan yang sama saat masturbasi? Ya, kebanyakan pria melakukan onani dengan satu tangan secara monoton. Cobalah ganti tangan anda, jika selama ini anda menggunakan tangan kanan ganti dengan tangan kiri. Awalnya mungkin terasa aneh tapi seiring dengan waktu anda akan terbiasa.

3. Coba Onani Dengan Posisi Yang Berbeda
Apakah anda melakukan onani dengan berbaring? lakukan perubahan pada posisi onani anda. Jika anda terbiasa beronani dengan berbaring, cobalah duduk. Jika anda terbiasa duduk, cobalah berdiri. Jika anda terbiasa mengocok penis dengan duduk di kursi, sekarang coba dengan berdiri atau berlutut. Semua posisi bisa anda praktekkan. Awalnya mungkin terasa cangung dan mengurangi kenikmatan anda saat onani. Tapi perubahan posisi ini akan menciptakan sensasi baru yang tentu akan menyenangkan anda.

4. Gerakkan Pinggul Anda.
Banyak pria hanya diam saat onani dan mengocok penis sambil menikmati sensasi yang muncul. Sekarang cobalah dengan menggerakkan pinggul anda seperti saat anda melakukan hubungan seks. Cara ini akan membantu anda lebih menikmati sensasi onani.

5. Ubah Tekanan Kocok Tangan
Ada banyak jenis tekanan kocokan tangan pada penis yang bisa digunakan. Jangan monoton pada satu tipe kocokan saja. Sensasi yang timbul dari tiap kocokan berbeda-beda. Cobalah tekanan berbeda dan kocokan berbeda saat onani. Jangan melulu mengocok penis dari atas ke bawah, coba ciptakan variasi lain seperti dengan gerakan merangsang penis dengan kocokan yang berputar pada penis sampai anda akan merasakan orgasme.

6. Saat orgasme.
Cobalah mengerang dan mendesah dalam, atau berteriah, metode ini akan memaksimalkan peregangan otot, pikiran dan gairah yg membuat sperma yg keluar maksimal dan kepuasan lebih maksimal juga. Cobalah lebih menikmati keluarnya sperma hingga anda maksimal.

KolonG "CARA MEMPERBANYAK SPERMA?

Memiliki sperma yang banyak merupakan kebanggaan bagi kaum pria karena dapat menghasilkan orgasme dan meningkatkan hasrat seksual pria.
Memiliki sperma yang banyak salah satu tanda kesuburan dan reproduksi yang sehat bagi pria.
Ada beberapa cara yang dapat dilakukan untuk meningkatkan jumlah sperma atau memperbanyak sperma, antara lain:

1. Melakukan hubungan seksual dalam 1 minggu 2 – 4 kali, dengan jeda waktu 1 hari untuk pematangan dan reproduksi sperma, apabila tiap hari berhubungan minimal tidur 6 jam agar reproduksi tidak terlalu dipaksakan.

2. Hindari ejakulasi terlalu cepat setiap sex atau saat melakukan masturbasi. Atur ritme sperma utk jangan cepat keluar, krn pompaan saluran dapat meluaskan rongga didnding zakar dan membentuk ruang utk lebih banyak sperma diproduksi didalamnya. Melakukan hubungan seksual dan ejakulasi tidak cepat juga dapat mengobati sperma yang encer dan mengurangi sperma rusak. Tetapi perlu diketahui pula terlalu sering melakukan sex dan terlalu banyak ejakulasi juga dapat menimbulkan kerusakan kromosom pada DNA.

3. Hindari kebiasaan minum alkohol atau minuman bersoda. Karena minuman beralkohol sangat buruk dampaknya bagi kualitas dan kuantitas sperma begitu pula dengan soda

4. Banyak minum air putih minimal 1 liter/hari atau setara dengan 6 – 8 gelas sehari. Air putih sangat baik untuk membunuh racun dan menghambat terjadinya penyakit kelamin, melancarakan reproduksi dan membantu metabolisme zakar.

5. Melakukan pola makan yang tepat dan teratur.

6. Istirahat yang cukup. Minimal 6 – 7 jam sehari

7. Merefleksikan diri sejenak dari rutinitas yang padat

8. Melakukan olahraga ringan seperti senam kegel agar otot – otot pada penis kembali kencang dan elastis

9. Gunakan pengaman atau pelindung pada penis saat melakukan pekerjaan berat agar tidak terjadi guncangan dalam sistem reproduksi

10. Mengonsumsi vitamin C dan sayuran yang dapat membangkitkan vitalitas tubuh, karena vitamin C bermanfaat paling besar dalam pembentukan sperma, kualitas dan kuantitas sperma

11.  Kurangi minum kopi. Memang kopi bisa membangkitkan gairah seksual, tetapi perlu diketahui pula kafein yang terkandung dalam kopi juga bisa menghambat produksi sperma, membuat warna sperma kuning dan bau tak sedap.

12.  Jika perlu hindari pemakaian celana ketat. Gunakan underwear atau boxer yang terbuat dari bahan katun, tidak panas dan tidak menimbulkan iritasi pada sekitar organ vital anda. Karena bila suhu panas pada sekitar penis dapat menimbulkan munjulnya kelenjar keringat yang berbahaya dan memudahkan penyakit atau virus masuk kedalam organ vital anda

KolonG "Why eat SPERM?"

These elements are in the bladder in the male sperm and sperm mythology. According to the understanding of ancient china flow TAO, sperm believe could be a drug or a resource that can create longevity, improve intelligence, and can make the skin smooth for a swallow. Reading a book to review tao ancient techniques on how to save a man seperm, believed that sperm make energy to improve health and intelligence.
According to modern scientific research now discovered that a man normally in a week producing 6 billion sperm cells, this means that every week a man could be the father of the 6 billion people on this earth. So what the good of sperm swallow ..? If you look at the levels of what they say, sperm did contain substances or proteins that are useful for the body, perhaps something like people who like to swallow / eat chicken eggs or duck eggs as a supplement to improve the vitality of the body, but in bottom line here is certainly healthy sperm to swallow the man belongs healthy. Okay, the following substances in biological sperm:
Ammonia ................................. 2
Ascoric Acid .......................... 12.8
Ash ......................................... 9.9%
Calcium ................................. 25
Carbon Dioxide ........... 54 ml/100 ml
Chloride .............................. 155
Cholesterol ........................... 80
Citric Acid ............................ 376
Creatine ................................ 20
Ergothioneine Trace ....................
Fructose ............................. 224
Glutathione ........................... 30
Glycerylphorylcholine ......... 54-90
Inositol ............................. 50.57
Lactic Acid ............................. 35
Magnesium ............................ 14
Nitrogen, nonprotein (total) ... 913
Phosphorus, acid-soluble ....... 57
Inorganic ............................... 11
Lipids ........................................ 6
Total (lipid) ........................... 112
Phosphorylcholine ............. 250-380
Potassium .............................. 89
Pyruvic acid ........................... 29
Sodium ................................. 281
Sorbitol ................................... 10
Vitamin B 12 ppg .......... 300-600
Sulfur ........................ 3% (of ash)
Urea ....................................... 72
Uric Acid ................................... 6
Zinc ........................................ 14
Copper ..................... 0.006 to 0.024

All of the above substances is an extremely important thing for the body, and also it is contained in many medicines healer.
so....no worry if you like sperm, eat it! ;)

KolonG "Love will find you, one day"

After long long away of waiting, "love finally meet us when we believe in faith". 6 years only know and talk in phone, from the time he just single till married with a girl. yeah...he's married. I though that love finds us belongs in a story book, not in real life. People need to work to get results in real life, so nothing really finds us. We have to go out and find it. This is the same for romance. But days seemed on our side, suddenly "My Rock Star" in front of me, it was 1st of July when we have nothing to say but keep staring, no words come along, and he just hold my hand, in public.
I believe that I should grab hold of an opportunity if it arises. if I want to find love, I know gotta put myself out here. I gotta work hard to maintain it and if things end, I gotta pick myself up and try again. its all hard work I knew, but at the end of the day, I know love never enough as the world say another faith.
But just can't do anything, we only follow the night, first night, second night, third night, to be with, to hold with, to kiss with and flying in bed with, nothing can't do but follow, cause we know when we separate, we do back to our life selves. He's got wife and beautiful kid to long life, I've got my boy and I love him as well.

Now we just accepted the reality and continue life, even when he said, "wish I marry you and you're mine"
Love will find you in different way, one day. And when we know we can be the one, but only feel, there's a faith.

[to MyRockStar, July 2012]

KolonG "Follow Your Heart"

He said love me with all his heart. But he never told a Single soul. I secretly loved him too. But he thought I would never have a chance with him. it was new years eve 2012 at "La Plancha" double 6 Bali, after 4 months we knew and finally he flew away from Bandung just for us met. I asked him what he think of me and he said I'm not his type. I found my self down and never built my feeling.
That night he followed way to club. I didn't know what to do. Night just flew and i saw how he can't away from me. What a wonderful days we passed in Bali, I just do the best thing to company him as a best homer, no flirt no hard feeling no expectation. And he said that I'm a good man. When he got home he felt real bad about what he had done to me. many convention. Asking any possibility to fix, offered sincerely love. So he decided to go to to my heart's house to tell he was sorry and that he wish I'm hims.

When he got my heart knocked on the door I have nothing to do to answered.

I know he don't miss me but miss my attention, whatever I have to stop my attention just giving him some lesson.  I just want he know that "Don't wait to until the last minute to tell someone how you really feel. Because it just might be too late. And don't always go by what your friends say, follow your heart."

Now time had passed by, and people already learn that love is just love, not only see the "Look"